doctoroxygen
Master Don Juan
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Dwyane Wade is definitely a DJ.
NBA Finals, anyone?
NBA Finals, anyone?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Who cares?doctoroxygen said:Dwyane Wade is definitely a DJ.
NBA Finals, anyone?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ok, dude.brucevangeorge said:Who cares?
I've gained at least 15lbs of muscle mass. I've gotten way more comfortable with public speaking as I am now a tour guide (job). I have gotten over my oneitis from highschool. Very, very far away.doctoroxygen said:Ok, dude.
What are you doing here? You've been a member for almost a year now; what have you accomplished in that time?
Thanks for the unsolicited advice.brucevangeorge said:STOP WASTING TIME ON THIS CRAP.
Watching a game is okay. Fantasizing about one of the players is not.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HAHAdoctoroxygen said:Thanks for the unsolicited advice.
Here's some from me: Try to eradicate the MASSIVE QUALIFYING, and you'll be set.
Wasn't around in 1972 & 3...doctoroxygen said:Dolphins!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
doctoroxygen said:Culpepper should be good for you, though. I love Miami teams, despite my location as far from Miami as is possible in the contiguous United States.
I was just thinking that.doctoroxygen said:Here's some from me: Try to eradicate the MASSIVE QUALIFYING, and you'll be set.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.