"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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During NC , mother dies..what next ?

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My ex of 4 years mother just passed , she massaged me and her brothers also messaged me , what now ?

Keep NC or break but with distance ?
I'm actually so confused right now because I know the whole family and we got along fine but she ****ed up and I can't be with her anymore for that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yorkex said:
My ex of 4 years mother just passed , she massaged me and her brothers also messaged me , what now ?

Keep NC or break but with distance ?
I'm actually so confused right now because I know the whole family and we got along fine but she ****ed up and I can't be with her anymore for that.
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Depends on how abusive she was. Did she cheat on you? Beat you? Emotionally abuse you?

If not...

Wait about a week. Then write "I'm terribly sorry for your loss. These things are very tough. I hope you are OK. Please, be well."

DO NOT WRITE ANYTHING AFTER THAT. Back to No CONTACT. Block her number and delete any incoming messages and texts that come from her. Any correspondence shows that you care too much about HER and not her family.

She is trying to pull you in guise of her mothers death which is self-serving and wrong.
 
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I'd send a sympathy card in the mail. That's about it. Back to NC.
 
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jesus christ some of you people are cold hearted.

offer your condolences OP, somebody died, this isn't really about either of you, you can always go back to never speaking to her again after that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yorkex said:
My ex of 4 years mother just passed , she massaged me and her brothers also messaged me , what now ?

Keep NC or break but with distance ?
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Depends on how long the NC has been going on. If it's been like 2 weeks or less, send her your condolences but nothing more.

If it's been longer, do not respond. Remember that these people are no longer part of your life and there's reasons for it.. If you fondly remember her mother, light a candle and have your own moment of silence for the woman. Remember her because YOU want to, not because your ex is guilting you into it.
 
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