"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to respond to these kind of texts, or just ignore them?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I drunk text my GF all the time, so I won't do it to the women I'm dating. She responds and I look back at how stupid I am the next morning. Ignore it and your sanity will thank you.
 

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BeginningDJ said:
I drunk text my GF all the time, so I won't do it to the women I'm dating. She responds and I look back at how stupid I am the next morning. Ignore it and your sanity will thank you.
I'm normally at work, so I'm sober. Just wondered if u guys wud text back as its everytime she goes out (I don't mind it)
 

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Post them here and I'll tell you what the truth serum revealed about her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like she's bored and looking for attention, a bit of power, gratification or validation.

Giving-in to which might seem nice but can undermine things if you do it too much.

Don't reply to everything and put any reply on hold for a while and keep some mystery about the delay - unless you are genuinely so in charge of your responses that you don't care two-hoots about what she says and you reply.
 

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Post them here and I'll tell you what the truth serum revealed about her.
1st

I want too come ur work and have my way with you. Wet thinking about it. I want you right now. Want to suck you off right now its all i want

2nd

Babe. No messing right now i love you 110%. Ur the best boyfriend ever i couldnt get any better and do anything for you. Your just amazing hope you know. You mean so much too me :) never been happier. Im glad ive got you <3

I replied to last one "cute and i know. What a disaster ;)"

I get these when she sober, just not as intense..

Ur take on it?
 

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What to respond to these kind of texts, or just ignore them?
The better question is, why aren't you with her when she's getting drunk? ;)
 

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1st

I want too come ur work and have my way with you. Wet thinking about it. I want you right now. Want to suck you off right now its all i want

2nd

Babe. No messing right now i love you 110%. Ur the best boyfriend ever i couldnt get any better and do anything for you. Your just amazing hope you know. You mean so much too me :) never been happier. Im glad ive got you <3

I replied to last one "cute and i know. What a disaster ;)"

I get these when she sober, just not as intense..

Ur take on it?
has she ever cheated on you? have you ever suspected anything?
 

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1st

I want too come ur work and have my way with you. Wet thinking about it. I want you right now. Want to suck you off right now its all i want

2nd

Babe. No messing right now i love you 110%. Ur the best boyfriend ever i couldnt get any better and do anything for you. Your just amazing hope you know. You mean so much too me :) never been happier. Im glad ive got you <3

I replied to last one "cute and i know. What a disaster ;)"

I get these when she sober, just not as intense..

Ur take on it?

why when I saw the 2nd text the phrase came to my mind, "too bad you was a bad girlfriend, now is too late for you. " i'm finally learning something?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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too bad you was a bad girlfriend, now is too late for you.

too bad you was a bad girlfriend


YOU WAS
YOU WAS
YOU WAS
YOU WAS
 

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1st - then get over here and speak into the microphone.
2nd - I know (you handled this well).

Curious what RT has to say!

SH
 

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too bad you was a bad girlfriend, now is too late for you.

too bad you was a bad girlfriend


YOU WAS
YOU WAS
YOU WAS
YOU WAS
I don't get it...
 

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has she ever cheated on you? have you ever suspected anything?
No, not that I know of. She shows no signs. Unless very good at hiding it
 

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Any suggestions, can't just reply I know or ignore all her messages all the time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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post some of the messages
 

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Example msgs

1st

I want too come ur work and have my way with you. Wet thinking about it. I want you right now. Want to suck you off right now its all i want

2nd

Babe. No messing right now i love you 110%. Ur the best boyfriend ever i couldnt get any better and do anything for you. Your just amazing hope you know. You mean so much too me never been happier. Im glad ive got you <3
 

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does she back these texts up with action?
 

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If you like the chick, then just don't answer them until next day.
You'll start a she game with her if you ask her to stop.

SH
 

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No translation necessary.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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