So last night me and my friend was about to head home from a night out. I met this girl who was clearly drunk and she kept telling me I'm cute and so on. Long story short, we had a decent convo for about 10 mins about our background and future but still drunk. She told me to take her number and text her. She is really cute and seems cool. She mention that she wants to go on a date and how she is on OKCUPID and don't like the guys there. Should I take the chance on this chick?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Drunk Girl gave me number
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DragonBlood
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YESNYCJoey22 said:
Post back and let us know how it goes.
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I say live dangerously and go on a date!!! 
Yes I'm being sarcastic. Why is going on a date with this girl even a question? It's a no brainer man.
Yes I'm being sarcastic. Why is going on a date with this girl even a question? It's a no brainer man.
VladPatton
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Send a text, see what happens man.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.