Because John E has terrible hand-eye coordinationOriginally posted by Best friends? NAY
umm Jon E....why shouldn't men play alot of video games?
BTW: what's a "cougar girl"???
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Because John E has terrible hand-eye coordinationOriginally posted by Best friends? NAY
umm Jon E....why shouldn't men play alot of video games?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That was a jab at Kevin. Click the "WWW" at the bottom of his post. Im an automotive painter so yes, I have excellent eye hand coordination, I just think its a little silly for a grown man to still be playing video games.Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
umm Jon E....why shouldn't men play alot of video games?
You can look and dress any way you want - as long as it's pragmatic, I don't see a problem with it - and in this case, some women LIKE soft hands on men.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
The issue is not about 'hand creme', the issue is about th e mindset behind it! Of course you should use lotion if your face and hands are dry, but to use it because you want your hands to look pretty and soft - well, that is what women do. Everyday women do a ritual of lotions and face creams for the purpose of trying to look young and pretty and soft for the men!!!!
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Originally posted by wolfie
00Kevin, you seem obsessed with the 'image' of how a man must present himself in your culture - which is all you really are describing, your culture.
Putting on hand cream does not make you any less strong or masculine, if you equate the two. Your recalcitrance and unacceptance of this issue hints at quite an insecurity. Who the hell cares if some metro guy uses hand cream? Is it in any way detrimental to him? Is it impractical in any way? Or does he just have to have rough hands to conform with your perceptions of 'the way things should be'.
I think masculinity is summed up very well in this article -
http://www.claremont.org/writings/crb/winter2003/moore.html
The concept of "Thumos" , or manly passions is a good description of what REALLY makes a strong, masculine man, not superficial manifestations like 'having rough hands', wearing a wife beater, driving a pickup truck or whatever the hell you're thinking of. Manliness is determined by the convictions and assertiveness with which you think and act, not playing at trying to LOOK like what your culture perceives a man to be. In this respect, homosexuals can be manly too as long as they act with strength and conviction.
I'm just kidding man, sorry. Anyways what the hell is a "cougar girl"??????Originally posted by Jon E
That was a jab at Kevin. Click the "WWW" at the bottom of his post. Im an automotive painter so yes, I have excellent eye hand coordination, I just think its a little silly for a grown man to still be playing video games.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Eh, the eucalyptus and lavender kinda puts it over the edge.Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
I'm maybe not a MAN since I'm only 21 but I have handlotion, bodylotion, exfoliatingcream, facial-lotion and a special one to prevent blue-bags underneath my eyes.
Not to mention how I enjoy long bubblebaths when I'm home visiting my parents where I use several different eucalyptus and lavendel oils.
Damn I wonder if that makes me less of a man...
not much of jab anyway.. that isn't a link to any video game. you must be really dumbOriginally posted by Jon E
That was a jab at Kevin. Click the "WWW" at the bottom of his post. Im an automotive painter so yes, I have excellent eye hand coordination, I just think its a little silly for a grown man to still be playing video games.
ThanxOriginally posted by dietzcoi
I think a "cougar" is an older (30s-40s) never been married woman...
SOmebody please confirm
Dietzcoi
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
ThanxOriginally posted by Austin Allegro
It's a north American term for a predatory older woman, generally one who hits on younger men, I think. Usually just getting past it in terms of attractiveness.
If you told me all of that to my face, then I'd say you were less of a man... to your face. Anyone who does all of that just to look hot for chicks needs to be kicked. Do it for yourself, sure... do it for chicks, NO.Originally posted by backbreaker
I am the most marticulous person I know when it comes to the way I look... I shave every day, use facial cream, get manicures, get my eyebrows arched and a couple of other things, and i'll be damned if anyone would call me anything less than a man to my face.
When I go out and public, I don't look around for woman, I KNOW they are looking at me. I dont' have to wonder if woman find me attractive, I put so much thought into my apperence that I KNOW that a woman is looking at me and thinking that he takes care of his body, must be a clean guy overall...
thank you thank you MF. I guess he will be damned now.Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you told me all of that to my face, then I'd say you were less of a man... to your face. Anyone who does all of that just to look hot for chicks needs to be kicked. Do it for yourself, sure... do it for chicks, NO.
cut your own nailsOriginally posted by TheInfamousCBear
I dont get them, but No pedicure = fukked up looking hands
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.