Because John E has terrible hand-eye coordinationOriginally posted by Best friends? NAY
umm Jon E....why shouldn't men play alot of video games?
BTW: what's a "cougar girl"???
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Because John E has terrible hand-eye coordinationOriginally posted by Best friends? NAY
umm Jon E....why shouldn't men play alot of video games?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That was a jab at Kevin. Click the "WWW" at the bottom of his post. Im an automotive painter so yes, I have excellent eye hand coordination, I just think its a little silly for a grown man to still be playing video games.Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
umm Jon E....why shouldn't men play alot of video games?
You can look and dress any way you want - as long as it's pragmatic, I don't see a problem with it - and in this case, some women LIKE soft hands on men.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
The issue is not about 'hand creme', the issue is about th e mindset behind it! Of course you should use lotion if your face and hands are dry, but to use it because you want your hands to look pretty and soft - well, that is what women do. Everyday women do a ritual of lotions and face creams for the purpose of trying to look young and pretty and soft for the men!!!!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by wolfie
00Kevin, you seem obsessed with the 'image' of how a man must present himself in your culture - which is all you really are describing, your culture.
Putting on hand cream does not make you any less strong or masculine, if you equate the two. Your recalcitrance and unacceptance of this issue hints at quite an insecurity. Who the hell cares if some metro guy uses hand cream? Is it in any way detrimental to him? Is it impractical in any way? Or does he just have to have rough hands to conform with your perceptions of 'the way things should be'.
I think masculinity is summed up very well in this article -
http://www.claremont.org/writings/crb/winter2003/moore.html
The concept of "Thumos" , or manly passions is a good description of what REALLY makes a strong, masculine man, not superficial manifestations like 'having rough hands', wearing a wife beater, driving a pickup truck or whatever the hell you're thinking of. Manliness is determined by the convictions and assertiveness with which you think and act, not playing at trying to LOOK like what your culture perceives a man to be. In this respect, homosexuals can be manly too as long as they act with strength and conviction.
I'm just kidding man, sorry. Anyways what the hell is a "cougar girl"??????Originally posted by Jon E
That was a jab at Kevin. Click the "WWW" at the bottom of his post. Im an automotive painter so yes, I have excellent eye hand coordination, I just think its a little silly for a grown man to still be playing video games.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Eh, the eucalyptus and lavender kinda puts it over the edge.Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
I'm maybe not a MAN since I'm only 21 but I have handlotion, bodylotion, exfoliatingcream, facial-lotion and a special one to prevent blue-bags underneath my eyes.
Not to mention how I enjoy long bubblebaths when I'm home visiting my parents where I use several different eucalyptus and lavendel oils.
Damn I wonder if that makes me less of a man...
not much of jab anyway.. that isn't a link to any video game. you must be really dumbOriginally posted by Jon E
That was a jab at Kevin. Click the "WWW" at the bottom of his post. Im an automotive painter so yes, I have excellent eye hand coordination, I just think its a little silly for a grown man to still be playing video games.
ThanxOriginally posted by dietzcoi
I think a "cougar" is an older (30s-40s) never been married woman...
SOmebody please confirm
Dietzcoi
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ThanxOriginally posted by Austin Allegro
It's a north American term for a predatory older woman, generally one who hits on younger men, I think. Usually just getting past it in terms of attractiveness.
If you told me all of that to my face, then I'd say you were less of a man... to your face. Anyone who does all of that just to look hot for chicks needs to be kicked. Do it for yourself, sure... do it for chicks, NO.Originally posted by backbreaker
I am the most marticulous person I know when it comes to the way I look... I shave every day, use facial cream, get manicures, get my eyebrows arched and a couple of other things, and i'll be damned if anyone would call me anything less than a man to my face.
When I go out and public, I don't look around for woman, I KNOW they are looking at me. I dont' have to wonder if woman find me attractive, I put so much thought into my apperence that I KNOW that a woman is looking at me and thinking that he takes care of his body, must be a clean guy overall...
thank you thank you MF. I guess he will be damned now.Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you told me all of that to my face, then I'd say you were less of a man... to your face. Anyone who does all of that just to look hot for chicks needs to be kicked. Do it for yourself, sure... do it for chicks, NO.
cut your own nailsOriginally posted by TheInfamousCBear
I dont get them, but No pedicure = fukked up looking hands
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.