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How old is too old to get loaded at the bars on the weekend with friends?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Drinking at the Bars?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Just try not to become 'that guy.'
CharlieHarper1040
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Yeah...it is serious because all the time I hear guys saying they are too old to get hammered at the bar.
Or at least, that is how they try to portray themselves.
As if, getting loaded one night a week at the bar past a certain age begins to have a negative connotation?
Or at least, that is how they try to portray themselves.
As if, getting loaded one night a week at the bar past a certain age begins to have a negative connotation?
Guys who say that they are too old for it, may have 'grown out' of the bar/party scene. That's their own issue.
On the other hand, there is a large number of guys that are just using age as an excuse for why their life sucks. Believe me, when they were "young" they had other limiting beliefs that were holding them back just as much, and as they got older, they transfered their insecurity onto their age. Remember, insecurity can take many forms and as one grows older, age becomes a convenient excuse.
Edit: Just wanted to clarify that it's FINE if a guy feels he has truly outgrown the bar scene. To each, their own. That is, as long as it's not a personal insecurity issue being pushed on others.
On the other hand, there is a large number of guys that are just using age as an excuse for why their life sucks. Believe me, when they were "young" they had other limiting beliefs that were holding them back just as much, and as they got older, they transfered their insecurity onto their age. Remember, insecurity can take many forms and as one grows older, age becomes a convenient excuse.
Edit: Just wanted to clarify that it's FINE if a guy feels he has truly outgrown the bar scene. To each, their own. That is, as long as it's not a personal insecurity issue being pushed on others.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.