"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dreaming about her at night... how to destroy neediness?!

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Mindgamez

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Hello guys,
The other day at school, this girl gave me a ton of IOIs. I didn't make my move that day, because I pussied out lol. I didn't really realize how powerful were the IOIs until I sat down and analysed everything.

She gently kicked my leg under her chair, she touched my shoulder with hers, she gave me warm smiles, she laughed at my boring comments and jokes, she poked me, she tried to steal my seat using her butt, blablah...

And then when I thought about it, I just kept saying myself that she probably is into me. I became very excited. I started thinking a lot about her and I kept dreaming about her at night. On a conscious level, I know it's not good to fall in love with a girl without being together yet since it makes us needy, but everytime I dream about her at night, the next morning she starts haunting me again. I think that if I get too needy about her, I'll feel very down if she says no.

I dreamt at least 4-5 times about her and at least 3-4 times this past week. I've never experienced that before. Did that happen to you guys before? Should I try to get her out of my mind?

Thanks guys :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mindgamez

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I will definitely make a move once vacations are over (in 2 weeks...), because I don't want to ask her out on facebook. That would suck I think. Do you think that waiting is bad? Will she forget about me?

Anyway, thanks for advice
 
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I'm praying that you have another opportunity to see her in person. I don't see this going perfectly smoothly if you have to ask her out over facebook.

Still, do what you gotta do. Don't let this one slip by, could be an omen. Make a move and 100% of the time you're happy you did, no matter what happens.
 
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Mindgamez

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You're right buddy. I should never be afraid of doing a move.

The other day on Christmas eve, I wrote on her facebook wall something like :

Heey Melissa, you know what? Well, I won't tell you and you'll have to wait til vacations are over because I want to annoy you! (jokes) By the way, stay awesome and keep smiling like you do, it's always pleasant! Merry Christmas :)
Then she said something like : Haha, have a merry Christmas and a happy new year!!

I don't know if it's a good way of being mysterious, or it just makes her go wtf? since I give pretty little information lol. I gave a compliment though, so I think what I did is not bad :). What you guys think? Do I think too much about what I do?

Thankzzz
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Oh dang. Mindgamez, best word of advice I can give you: Women want men.

You're seriously doing the girl a favor for talking to her, flirting with her, etc. Girls, especially in high school, are way too shy and insecure to make the first move. If you notice "IOI" (I hate that term), she WANTS you to make the 1st move. Give her what she always wanted man!! =))
 
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You should try and do no contact at all through messaging, cause I've had emotions take over before and write similar stuff, it just messes you up and you regret it in the future. Other than that, you're doing good. Just wait till the vacations are over and go for it.
 
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