"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hello guys,
The other day at school, this girl gave me a ton of IOIs. I didn't make my move that day, because I pussied out lol. I didn't really realize how powerful were the IOIs until I sat down and analysed everything.

She gently kicked my leg under her chair, she touched my shoulder with hers, she gave me warm smiles, she laughed at my boring comments and jokes, she poked me, she tried to steal my seat using her butt, blablah...

And then when I thought about it, I just kept saying myself that she probably is into me. I became very excited. I started thinking a lot about her and I kept dreaming about her at night. On a conscious level, I know it's not good to fall in love with a girl without being together yet since it makes us needy, but everytime I dream about her at night, the next morning she starts haunting me again. I think that if I get too needy about her, I'll feel very down if she says no.

I dreamt at least 4-5 times about her and at least 3-4 times this past week. I've never experienced that before. Did that happen to you guys before? Should I try to get her out of my mind?

Thanks guys :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I will definitely make a move once vacations are over (in 2 weeks...), because I don't want to ask her out on facebook. That would suck I think. Do you think that waiting is bad? Will she forget about me?

Anyway, thanks for advice
 
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I'm praying that you have another opportunity to see her in person. I don't see this going perfectly smoothly if you have to ask her out over facebook.

Still, do what you gotta do. Don't let this one slip by, could be an omen. Make a move and 100% of the time you're happy you did, no matter what happens.
 
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Mindgamez

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You're right buddy. I should never be afraid of doing a move.

The other day on Christmas eve, I wrote on her facebook wall something like :

Heey Melissa, you know what? Well, I won't tell you and you'll have to wait til vacations are over because I want to annoy you! (jokes) By the way, stay awesome and keep smiling like you do, it's always pleasant! Merry Christmas :)
Then she said something like : Haha, have a merry Christmas and a happy new year!!

I don't know if it's a good way of being mysterious, or it just makes her go wtf? since I give pretty little information lol. I gave a compliment though, so I think what I did is not bad :). What you guys think? Do I think too much about what I do?

Thankzzz
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Oh dang. Mindgamez, best word of advice I can give you: Women want men.

You're seriously doing the girl a favor for talking to her, flirting with her, etc. Girls, especially in high school, are way too shy and insecure to make the first move. If you notice "IOI" (I hate that term), she WANTS you to make the 1st move. Give her what she always wanted man!! =))
 
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You should try and do no contact at all through messaging, cause I've had emotions take over before and write similar stuff, it just messes you up and you regret it in the future. Other than that, you're doing good. Just wait till the vacations are over and go for it.
 
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