"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Drained from a toxic work environment, anyone else been there?

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Check around and see if anyone else in equally unhappy about it, either case consider an escape plan.

Best thing is when enough people in annoyed and productivity decrease so your new "boss" gets removed from his.
 

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I can relate, your only solution is to find another job. I had an similar manager for 4 years, after 3 I was speaking with myself at home, had panic attacks. My last panic attack was en route to the new job.
I am drama free (work related) since then.
 

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
I'd stop caring and check out mentally. Jobs are nothing more than a means to an end.

Do the bare minimum to not get fired (you'd be surprised how unwilling most companies are to fire bottom performers) and look for other jobs.
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
What @Çharismo said; find a new job that is better.
No point of being in place that you don't like. It will drain your heart and soul.
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
Mental health over anything. Always keep that in mind. No job, woman, money, etc, etc is worth your mental health.

Start taking steps to either land another job or take the next step if you've ever wanted to do your own thing or advance professionally.

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Did three years of misery.
Had nightmares it was so bad.
Even after they kicked me out (I stayed out of spite)
Had nightmares off and on for a couple of more years.
Find another job buddy, life's too short.
Coming home angry to your significant other is a huge redflag.
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
Bro get out!!
Between 2012-2016 I was making the most money but also hated the job I was doing.I loathed it,the work environment was toxic because management loved it that way (they encouraged competition between salesmen) a lot of people did a lot of shady things to meet their numbers and personally, I just couldn't do it

God did me a favor by me getting laid of, I put on 100 puts lost 50 still losing more and this was over 6 years ago!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mental health over anything. Always keep that in mind. No job, woman, money, etc, etc is worth your mental health.

Start taking steps to either land another job or take the next step if you've ever wanted to do your own thing or advance professionally.

Modern Man Advice
^^Totally agree, worked a job I hated for 4 years my mental health was in a toxic place,
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
You have to make your life the priority and the job as a supplement. Also look for better environment. But until then live a fulfilling life outside work. Your mental health depends upon it.
 
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