"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Drained from a toxic work environment, anyone else been there?

Jesse Pinkman

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Check around and see if anyone else in equally unhappy about it, either case consider an escape plan.

Best thing is when enough people in annoyed and productivity decrease so your new "boss" gets removed from his.
 

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I can relate, your only solution is to find another job. I had an similar manager for 4 years, after 3 I was speaking with myself at home, had panic attacks. My last panic attack was en route to the new job.
I am drama free (work related) since then.
 

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
I'd stop caring and check out mentally. Jobs are nothing more than a means to an end.

Do the bare minimum to not get fired (you'd be surprised how unwilling most companies are to fire bottom performers) and look for other jobs.
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
What @Çharismo said; find a new job that is better.
No point of being in place that you don't like. It will drain your heart and soul.
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
Mental health over anything. Always keep that in mind. No job, woman, money, etc, etc is worth your mental health.

Start taking steps to either land another job or take the next step if you've ever wanted to do your own thing or advance professionally.

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Did three years of misery.
Had nightmares it was so bad.
Even after they kicked me out (I stayed out of spite)
Had nightmares off and on for a couple of more years.
Find another job buddy, life's too short.
Coming home angry to your significant other is a huge redflag.
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
Bro get out!!
Between 2012-2016 I was making the most money but also hated the job I was doing.I loathed it,the work environment was toxic because management loved it that way (they encouraged competition between salesmen) a lot of people did a lot of shady things to meet their numbers and personally, I just couldn't do it

God did me a favor by me getting laid of, I put on 100 puts lost 50 still losing more and this was over 6 years ago!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mental health over anything. Always keep that in mind. No job, woman, money, etc, etc is worth your mental health.

Start taking steps to either land another job or take the next step if you've ever wanted to do your own thing or advance professionally.

Modern Man Advice
^^Totally agree, worked a job I hated for 4 years my mental health was in a toxic place,
 

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So I've been at my job for a few years and this year, we got a new manager. The work environment has become more toxic and petty but I am noticing that it is impacting my day to day. For one, I have to force myself out of bed every morning while the past few years, this was never the case. I find myself wasting more time during the work day on Youtube videos and being off task which is not something I used to do much.

Sometimes, I have to get in myself mentally right when I do anything relating to women and dating because I am so beatdown from the day itself. It's not somewhere I have been before mentally. I used to love this job so much but the new manager is so petty and plays favorites while keeping so much information from me that I am starting to hate it here. It's just spilling over to other areas of my life too now.

Anyone else been there? Anyone else find it tough to dissociate from work even when you are done?
You have to make your life the priority and the job as a supplement. Also look for better environment. But until then live a fulfilling life outside work. Your mental health depends upon it.
 
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