"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Meetup groups have a higher quality of women than the club for sure. I'd check to see if there are any other groups in your area that might be appealing to you to meet women, or even create your own group. That will help you socialize as well as meet new women on a consistent basis.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Back to focusing on effort, rather than results.
Good reads:
Approach mindset, they want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them!
http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/355.htm
Go out and get experience
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000773.html
The decades don't change this excellent tip! I forgot about 30/70, 40/60 talking ratio, and focused on being a mystery.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/converse.htm
More about getting to know a woman
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/talktowomen.htm
Alright, after reading some other journals, I've got a new paradigm on this approach thing. Women want to be chatted up, and it's our job to do it. I've never heard of a chick say that it's their job to go up and talk to a guy they like, ever. Not going to pick up women from being a nervous wreck that for sure!
Also I couldn't find this post:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096
from:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/daily-journal-for-cold-approaches.34241/
This cute girl kept the conversation going, and made an effort with it. The addiction to success and talking to women begins. Still nerve wracking as hell though.
Getting more comfortable with the uncomfortable, so to speak.
Man, the best advice for me is to clam the hell down. It's like my brain is hijacked when trying to approach, but DJing is a state of mind. Getting into the flow feels so damn natural. Must approach more!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.