"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Meetup groups have a higher quality of women than the club for sure. I'd check to see if there are any other groups in your area that might be appealing to you to meet women, or even create your own group. That will help you socialize as well as meet new women on a consistent basis.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Back to focusing on effort, rather than results.
Good reads:
Approach mindset, they want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them!
http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/355.htm
Go out and get experience
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000773.html
The decades don't change this excellent tip! I forgot about 30/70, 40/60 talking ratio, and focused on being a mystery.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/converse.htm
More about getting to know a woman
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/talktowomen.htm
Alright, after reading some other journals, I've got a new paradigm on this approach thing. Women want to be chatted up, and it's our job to do it. I've never heard of a chick say that it's their job to go up and talk to a guy they like, ever. Not going to pick up women from being a nervous wreck that for sure!
Also I couldn't find this post:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096
from:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/daily-journal-for-cold-approaches.34241/
This cute girl kept the conversation going, and made an effort with it. The addiction to success and talking to women begins. Still nerve wracking as hell though.
Getting more comfortable with the uncomfortable, so to speak.
Man, the best advice for me is to clam the hell down. It's like my brain is hijacked when trying to approach, but DJing is a state of mind. Getting into the flow feels so damn natural. Must approach more!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.