"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
DragonKi's BootCamp Journal
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Meetup groups have a higher quality of women than the club for sure. I'd check to see if there are any other groups in your area that might be appealing to you to meet women, or even create your own group. That will help you socialize as well as meet new women on a consistent basis.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Back to focusing on effort, rather than results.
Good reads:
Approach mindset, they want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them!
http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/355.htm
Go out and get experience
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000773.html
The decades don't change this excellent tip! I forgot about 30/70, 40/60 talking ratio, and focused on being a mystery.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/converse.htm
More about getting to know a woman
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/talktowomen.htm
Alright, after reading some other journals, I've got a new paradigm on this approach thing. Women want to be chatted up, and it's our job to do it. I've never heard of a chick say that it's their job to go up and talk to a guy they like, ever. Not going to pick up women from being a nervous wreck that for sure!
Also I couldn't find this post:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096
from:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/daily-journal-for-cold-approaches.34241/
This cute girl kept the conversation going, and made an effort with it. The addiction to success and talking to women begins. Still nerve wracking as hell though.
Getting more comfortable with the uncomfortable, so to speak.
Man, the best advice for me is to clam the hell down. It's like my brain is hijacked when trying to approach, but DJing is a state of mind. Getting into the flow feels so damn natural. Must approach more!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.