"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo- Thoughts?

Sofomore

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Have any of you read this? I feel like this is one of the best overall guides to over coming you AFC tendencies. I am currently reading it through for the second time and I really love what I am reading. I'll admit I didn't pay for it (thanks internet), but I am considering throwing this guy some money for b!tch-slapping the AFC out of me. :yes:

If you are fairly new to this site, I'd suggest checking it out. It's very interesting and spot on.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Worth reading. DD is one of the pioneers and the creator of C+F.
 

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I've always hated it myself. It does have some snippets that are very valuable and teaches the basics of overcoming your AFC traits, but it's a bit too extreme and leans towards mysogyny.

I also find his examples and hypothetical scenarious very far fetched and detached from reality. DD was my first contact with PUA/Seduction material and it led me into a very bad and confusing place. I was trying to be someone I was not, I was being rude to people, defensive and bitter towards women and started driving people away.

Even worse was when I started looking at Ross Jeffries material. I totally humiliated myself there.

If you're looking for a good book to read on seduction I highly recommend Carlos Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha Male. It covers the basics very well and doesn't go into the extremes or the fantasy of many PUA/Seduction books.
 

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bigneil said:
Worth reading. DD is one of the pioneers and the creator of C+F.
He didn't invent it, he just gave it a name.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

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Jariel said:
I highly recommend Carlos Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha Male.
Agreed the dude has some good stuff.
 

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Check Out My Techs

de stefano is crap doesn t work having said that it s worked for him the guy s is rolling in it


check out my latest threads ALphAROMEO there u you ll find what works

first you got to address shyness
how to have guy beat his downing and his supposed ugliness

second
using the same opener all the time that is conducive to real great convos bteween the male and the female THE OPENER in question is A KILLER
 

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There is nothing on Double Dating that you can't find on SS, why pay for something that should be free.
 
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