Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Don't worry, prepare

servo1234567

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I used to be so worried and pissed off all the time. Every day I woke up hating everything and everyone. I can't believe I allowed myself to get that bitter.

So what's different today? I realized things sucked sometimes.

"everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

This is from Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning". Frankl was a Jewish psychiatrist who was forced into a concentration camp in 1942. After being released he wrote this book and it's a great read. You see, in concentration camps, there were those who gave up and there were those who didn't. What's the difference between the man who gives up and the man who doesn't? Attitude. One doesn't have any more promise of freedom than the other but he keeps going.

So the next time you're in traffic honking your horn and going crazy or pissed off about something you can't change, remember you can be pissed off or you can chill...but there's still going to be traffic.

Learn to fix what can be fixed, prepare for what can be prepared for, and accept what you can't change.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WhtRbt

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Very nice, I agree. When I start to get frustrated or pissed off, I try to immediately change my attitude/mood, and it becomes easier the more I do it.
 

COD

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hmmm I think awhile back I posted the worry breakdown chart
 

DrD77

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i worry way too much all the damn time too. especially since i just started dating my first girl. does she still like me? when will we have sex? did i say that right? will i be nervous my first time? sometimes i just cant stop myself about other things too. i think i have ocd actually i know.
 
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