"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't worry, prepare

servo1234567

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I used to be so worried and pissed off all the time. Every day I woke up hating everything and everyone. I can't believe I allowed myself to get that bitter.

So what's different today? I realized things sucked sometimes.

"everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

This is from Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning". Frankl was a Jewish psychiatrist who was forced into a concentration camp in 1942. After being released he wrote this book and it's a great read. You see, in concentration camps, there were those who gave up and there were those who didn't. What's the difference between the man who gives up and the man who doesn't? Attitude. One doesn't have any more promise of freedom than the other but he keeps going.

So the next time you're in traffic honking your horn and going crazy or pissed off about something you can't change, remember you can be pissed off or you can chill...but there's still going to be traffic.

Learn to fix what can be fixed, prepare for what can be prepared for, and accept what you can't change.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WhtRbt

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Very nice, I agree. When I start to get frustrated or pissed off, I try to immediately change my attitude/mood, and it becomes easier the more I do it.
 

COD

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hmmm I think awhile back I posted the worry breakdown chart
 

DrD77

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i worry way too much all the damn time too. especially since i just started dating my first girl. does she still like me? when will we have sex? did i say that right? will i be nervous my first time? sometimes i just cant stop myself about other things too. i think i have ocd actually i know.
 
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