"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't worry, prepare

servo1234567

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I used to be so worried and pissed off all the time. Every day I woke up hating everything and everyone. I can't believe I allowed myself to get that bitter.

So what's different today? I realized things sucked sometimes.

"everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

This is from Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning". Frankl was a Jewish psychiatrist who was forced into a concentration camp in 1942. After being released he wrote this book and it's a great read. You see, in concentration camps, there were those who gave up and there were those who didn't. What's the difference between the man who gives up and the man who doesn't? Attitude. One doesn't have any more promise of freedom than the other but he keeps going.

So the next time you're in traffic honking your horn and going crazy or pissed off about something you can't change, remember you can be pissed off or you can chill...but there's still going to be traffic.

Learn to fix what can be fixed, prepare for what can be prepared for, and accept what you can't change.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WhtRbt

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Very nice, I agree. When I start to get frustrated or pissed off, I try to immediately change my attitude/mood, and it becomes easier the more I do it.
 

COD

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hmmm I think awhile back I posted the worry breakdown chart
 

DrD77

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i worry way too much all the damn time too. especially since i just started dating my first girl. does she still like me? when will we have sex? did i say that right? will i be nervous my first time? sometimes i just cant stop myself about other things too. i think i have ocd actually i know.
 
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