"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't worry, prepare

servo1234567

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I used to be so worried and pissed off all the time. Every day I woke up hating everything and everyone. I can't believe I allowed myself to get that bitter.

So what's different today? I realized things sucked sometimes.

"everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

This is from Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning". Frankl was a Jewish psychiatrist who was forced into a concentration camp in 1942. After being released he wrote this book and it's a great read. You see, in concentration camps, there were those who gave up and there were those who didn't. What's the difference between the man who gives up and the man who doesn't? Attitude. One doesn't have any more promise of freedom than the other but he keeps going.

So the next time you're in traffic honking your horn and going crazy or pissed off about something you can't change, remember you can be pissed off or you can chill...but there's still going to be traffic.

Learn to fix what can be fixed, prepare for what can be prepared for, and accept what you can't change.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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WhtRbt

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Very nice, I agree. When I start to get frustrated or pissed off, I try to immediately change my attitude/mood, and it becomes easier the more I do it.
 

COD

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hmmm I think awhile back I posted the worry breakdown chart
 

DrD77

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i worry way too much all the damn time too. especially since i just started dating my first girl. does she still like me? when will we have sex? did i say that right? will i be nervous my first time? sometimes i just cant stop myself about other things too. i think i have ocd actually i know.
 
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