So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
usa/california/orange county (20 minutes east of long beach)
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don Juans Everywhere!
- Thread starter MoAF
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
B.J. Van Beusekom
New Member
USA/Mineapolis/ Minnesota
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Cool Cat Ben
New Member
I live in Illinois.
I live in Bloomington/Normal, IL (Twin Cities). Illinois State University (ISU) is a significant landmark here. I'm also near:
Decatur
Champaign/Urbana (where UIUC* is located)
Peoria
Springfield
*-University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign)
Note: I know it was a little wordy, but I needed to get keywords in there.
Ben
I live in Bloomington/Normal, IL (Twin Cities). Illinois State University (ISU) is a significant landmark here. I'm also near:
Decatur
Champaign/Urbana (where UIUC* is located)
Peoria
Springfield
*-University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign)
Note: I know it was a little wordy, but I needed to get keywords in there.
Ben
catch
Senior Don Juan
catch me if u can
ENGLAND, SOUTH BIRMINGHAM
ENGLAND, SOUTH BIRMINGHAM
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Scaramanga86
Don Juan
New Zealand / Auckland
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
VA
US / Virginia / Roanoke
US / Virginia / Roanoke
spidersense
Don Juan
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USA / North Carolina / Charlotte
Originally posted by Kodiac
Australia / NSW / Sydney (area)
seattledon
New Member
Location
USA / Seattle / Washington
Hit me up if you're in town
USA / Seattle / Washington
Hit me up if you're in town
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
namewitheld
New Member
United Kingdom/London
Royal Elite
Banned
USA/New York/Albany
diablo
Master Don Juan
USA / Louisiana / Baton Rouge
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.