So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
usa/california/orange county (20 minutes east of long beach)
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Don Juans Everywhere!
- Thread starter MoAF
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
B.J. Van Beusekom
New Member
USA/Mineapolis/ Minnesota
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Cool Cat Ben
New Member
I live in Illinois.
I live in Bloomington/Normal, IL (Twin Cities). Illinois State University (ISU) is a significant landmark here. I'm also near:
Decatur
Champaign/Urbana (where UIUC* is located)
Peoria
Springfield
*-University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign)
Note: I know it was a little wordy, but I needed to get keywords in there.
Ben
I live in Bloomington/Normal, IL (Twin Cities). Illinois State University (ISU) is a significant landmark here. I'm also near:
Decatur
Champaign/Urbana (where UIUC* is located)
Peoria
Springfield
*-University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign)
Note: I know it was a little wordy, but I needed to get keywords in there.
Ben
catch
Senior Don Juan
catch me if u can
ENGLAND, SOUTH BIRMINGHAM
ENGLAND, SOUTH BIRMINGHAM
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Scaramanga86
Don Juan
New Zealand / Auckland
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
VA
US / Virginia / Roanoke
US / Virginia / Roanoke
spidersense
Don Juan
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USA / North Carolina / Charlotte
Originally posted by Kodiac
Australia / NSW / Sydney (area)
seattledon
New Member
Location
USA / Seattle / Washington
Hit me up if you're in town
USA / Seattle / Washington
Hit me up if you're in town
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
namewitheld
New Member
United Kingdom/London
Royal Elite
Banned
USA/New York/Albany
diablo
Master Don Juan
USA / Louisiana / Baton Rouge
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.