Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Brother AP and I also agree that seperate threads are the way to go. That will organize things a little better. I also think that Brother AP should be the one to officially post them. That way we don't have a bunch of people trying to post the thread on their own. But hey, you and him can work that out.just my thoughts. if people agree that the seperate posts for each week is a good idea, then i can go ahead and create it come this friday (unless some1 else wants to, or every1 decides on some1 else to do it). i think we should post the initial exercises and the lil intro that comes with each week so people can read it on the site as well
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I did..its : redshiftat7000Originally posted by Ever onward
red shift, you didn't add your name to the list...![]()
None taken. I'm adding the screen names to my buddy list now, Later tonight if I see alot of people on I'll start up a chat.Originally posted by Ever onward
LostinNJ
No offense by the lack of faith comment. It was a movie quote. [/B]
OH I see it now, carry on then. lol.I did..its : redshiftat7000 I couldnt get the screen name "redshift"
I've tried to use aim on the university computers but I can't. It keeps saying "pop up blocker won't allow it" but I've turned the pop up blocker off on the tools drop down box.P.S. I think I have some kind of virus, so if anyone gets a message from me saying something along the lines of "Is this really you?" where "this" is a link to something. Don't click it!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.