She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is the biggest weakness of cold approaching, IMO. If you're a relatively young guy, this probably doesn't apply. But once you get to a certain age (or more correctly, once the girls get to a certain age), the vast, vast majority of them are going to have husbands, or boyfriends at least. Especially if the girls are pretty enough to attract your attention in a random environment.charmest said:My next problem is, everywhere there are already pairs. If I'd like to approach someone, she's either being approached by anyone else or she's together with him.
I didn't get your point. How to get rid off that weakness?zekko said:This is the biggest weakness of cold approaching, IMO. If you're a relatively young guy, this probably doesn't apply. But once you get to a certain age (or more correctly, once the girls get to a certain age), the vast, vast majority of them are going to have husbands, or boyfriends at least. Especially if the girls are pretty enough to attract your attention in a random environment.
This doesn't really phase certain player types, however, since they seem to revel in the fact that they can bang a girl while the unsuspecting schmuck boyfriend sits at home unaware.
I don't think you can get rid of that weakness, it's just inherent to the method. But that's okay, there are pros to cold approaching also (you get to do the choosing, and go after any girl who appeals to you). There are pros and cons to everything. If you get women through social circle, you'll know whether or not they're single, but your choices will be more limited.charmest said:I didn't get your point. How to get rid off that weakness?
I'm 27. Is this old? In my opinion, the time is coming closer that I need a woman. As I've heard, men at older age are atractive for women because of their maturity.
Come on man, you're not that desperate. Have some pride and self respectcharmest said:What about Love Systems' "Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game" by Braddock ?
^^ Ya, I know their true intentions. What do you mean exactly by "reading the bible"? Is the bible= all sites on mts.net or is it only the don juan book?adam225 said:You "need" a women ??? Whilst you are in that mind frame you're setup for disaster (most likely you'll become a slave aka a doormat). You "need" water and food; you "want" a women. Don't mix up "need" and "want"...
Women are nothing more than an extra in life. So snap out of this "I need one" bull sh1t. When you've read the bible and hung around the forum for a bit you should start to understand this. Like I always say - this life is all about YOU. So focus on yourself and becoming happy in who you are. Once you've done that, then you can start looking externally. Keep in mind though, a lot of women will try to destroy your happiness, not add to it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/adam225 said:This is the bible I was referring to - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=195515
Some of Pooks stuff is good - but you must be able to understand the meaning behind some of it. It's not just a simple "glance over".
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
But Push-Pull is flirting as well as Banter. Where does Don Juan explain or tell how to flirt, banter, tease and so on? In wms.pdf?adam225 said:Are you tripping man ?? It's all about self improvement. Not this "trick reverse psychology" bull sh1t. To be honest I don't even properly know what that PUA bull sh1t is. The way I see it though - if you have to use it then you've got deep issues. There's no tricks or games involved - just focus on self improvement and becoming a better person. Become more mindful and know what you want from life (or a women). Never compromise or settle for less. Tricking someone into liking you is the most pathetic crap I could possible think of. They either like you for who you really are or they don't.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.