"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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does this sound too available?

big weezy

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I have to respond to a text if I say to set up a date. If I send 'I'm busy tomorrow but I can do tonight or thurs at 8pm. How's then?' Is this too available? She appears to be a working girl and very busy has long hours and I don't want to convey I'm too free. Any suggestions to mention being busy another day?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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big weezy said:
I have to respond to a text if I say to set up a date. If I send 'I'm busy tomorrow but I can do tonight or thurs at 8pm. How's then?' Is this too available? She appears to be a working girl and very busy has long hours and I don't want to convey I'm too free. Any suggestions to mention being busy another day?
YEAH MAN! Way too available! You gotta say you are NOT available EVER and NEVER be available so you guys can go on a date!

Why not just ask "What day's are you available, and I'll see if I have free time between [saving the world or some generic C&F thing] and [some other thing].
 

Mantis Toboggan

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Man, I try to positive around here, but you are the worst poster ever. You can't even make a phone call without pissing your pants.

Stop asking for advice on every minor step. It's gay.
 

Tiguere

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Omg she asked what am I doing this wekend? .... What should I say? Lol. Threads like this can make anyones day.
 

Kal0051

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Omg, I girl smiled at me on the bus this morning. What should I do? Should I claw her and go for the f-close?

lol, oh I can see lots of troll posts on this thread. And to the OP, your not being too available.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bonafide

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Too available? What? I mean, are you available? If you are available, then you might as well be with her at that time...what else are you going to be doing? Jacking off?

If you think that you are "too available", you might want to start doing something. DJ's don't just sit around. You gotta be working towards or on something. 6 days of work, one day of rest.
 
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