"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Does she miss me??

bignick79

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Hey Guys!

I wrote a post a while back about this girl i was into. She had broken up with her b/f, but wasnt ready to get into anything serious, she was still thinking about getting back with her man, so i backed off and started to leave her alone.

Well, a few weeks have gone by, and today she calls but i didn't answer the phone. So, she leaves a message telling me about some job orientation she went to and asked if i'd be interested to call her. Is this her way of staying in touch and saying she misses me? or am i reading too much into it?? Gimme your opinions guys.


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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Slickster

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Find out if the other dude is still in the picture. If she's still playing games with you then say see ya and put her on the bottom of your list.

Don't be the guy giving her attention when she needs it. Especially when she's going home and fvcking him.
 

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Call her back - don't bring up the x-bf at all. If she brings up the x-bf then you are wasting your time.
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
Call her back - don't bring up the x-bf at all. If she brings up the x-bf then you are wasting your time.
I agree. I wouldn't totally ignore her. If she mentioned anything about her boyfriend, she's using a crutch.

Depending on how you really like her ;) , don't totally ditch her.
 

cave dweller

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the call

Hey,
She called you, that means she wants you 'mount' her.
The ex-bf is history.

cave dweller
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Interesting theory Cave Dweller, u sure about that?? :D

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bignick79

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How long should i wait to call??

Big Nick
 

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1) Call her and ask her out.
2) See if she accepts
3) At the end of the date, kiss her in a romantic way.

Saves a lot of time and wondering if she meant "x" when she said "y"
 

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I called her and she was having lunch with him. So....Can anyone say NEXT!!!

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Friggin' typical.

You might want to review your past w/ her to determine if you've been an AFC to her. I'm guessing that you've been a bit of a doormat if she pulled this crap.

What doesn't kill ya makes your stronger.

(...your time for revenge is at hand. Viola. The ZF-1...) (a Fifth Element reference)
 

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Originally posted by Aztec
If she mentioned anything about her boyfriend, she's using a crutch.

can we guess who the crutch was ?
*hint * hint* it wasnt the bf...

sheesh... felllas ... girls do this crap all the time!
watch out for it! dont get tricked!!
 

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hey my first post!
dude, you want her? take her DANCING! Boyfriend will be GONE! level the field first. then be elusive. then get a hotterchick on your arm in her face. have a tequila and sit back. sparks will fly. then get her alone and drunk. dance again while you are alone. done deal.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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