"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does she miss me??

bignick79

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Hey Guys!

I wrote a post a while back about this girl i was into. She had broken up with her b/f, but wasnt ready to get into anything serious, she was still thinking about getting back with her man, so i backed off and started to leave her alone.

Well, a few weeks have gone by, and today she calls but i didn't answer the phone. So, she leaves a message telling me about some job orientation she went to and asked if i'd be interested to call her. Is this her way of staying in touch and saying she misses me? or am i reading too much into it?? Gimme your opinions guys.


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Slickster

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Find out if the other dude is still in the picture. If she's still playing games with you then say see ya and put her on the bottom of your list.

Don't be the guy giving her attention when she needs it. Especially when she's going home and fvcking him.
 

flexion_

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Call her back - don't bring up the x-bf at all. If she brings up the x-bf then you are wasting your time.
 

Aztec

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Originally posted by flexion_
Call her back - don't bring up the x-bf at all. If she brings up the x-bf then you are wasting your time.
I agree. I wouldn't totally ignore her. If she mentioned anything about her boyfriend, she's using a crutch.

Depending on how you really like her ;) , don't totally ditch her.
 

cave dweller

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the call

Hey,
She called you, that means she wants you 'mount' her.
The ex-bf is history.

cave dweller
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Interesting theory Cave Dweller, u sure about that?? :D

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bignick79

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How long should i wait to call??

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1) Call her and ask her out.
2) See if she accepts
3) At the end of the date, kiss her in a romantic way.

Saves a lot of time and wondering if she meant "x" when she said "y"
 

bignick79

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I called her and she was having lunch with him. So....Can anyone say NEXT!!!

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Friggin' typical.

You might want to review your past w/ her to determine if you've been an AFC to her. I'm guessing that you've been a bit of a doormat if she pulled this crap.

What doesn't kill ya makes your stronger.

(...your time for revenge is at hand. Viola. The ZF-1...) (a Fifth Element reference)
 

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Originally posted by Aztec
If she mentioned anything about her boyfriend, she's using a crutch.

can we guess who the crutch was ?
*hint * hint* it wasnt the bf...

sheesh... felllas ... girls do this crap all the time!
watch out for it! dont get tricked!!
 

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hey my first post!
dude, you want her? take her DANCING! Boyfriend will be GONE! level the field first. then be elusive. then get a hotterchick on your arm in her face. have a tequila and sit back. sparks will fly. then get her alone and drunk. dance again while you are alone. done deal.
cracky
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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