"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does Nofap lead to poor choices

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Has this happen to you? In the past when I eat healthy workout 6 times a week and have little to no plates spinning. After about 3 weeks of no fap and healthy diet and exercise I will literally ignore certain red flags from a woman that just 3 weeks prior I wouldn't have. Also I would pump and dump a lower quality woman that 3 weeks prior I wouldn't have. I'm sure this is normal and testosterone building and looking for a release or something. Seems to me the only answer in that situation is to either fap once every 3 weeks or deal with coyote ugly.

Any of you get this? If so do you have a different way of dealing with it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I get sort of a "surge" of insane hornyness at the 2 week mark, and it lasts about 2 weeks

the first time i did nofap i had sex with a chubby single mother during this phase

you need to go on lockdown until it passes, then you will get back to normal.
 

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For many of us its a tool to get over porn addiction and even erectile disfunction. Your mind seems to be cleansed and getting back to default. Just realize that you will go through periods of desperation which is perfectly fine and normal and that it shall pass. I even entered a room with a romanian hore last week who did creampies without protection after a date didnt end up with sex, see my point? (I didnt do it though) ;)
 
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For many of us its a tool to get over porn addiction and even erectile disfunction. Your mind seems to be cleansed and getting back to default. Just realize that you will go through periods of desperation which is perfectly fine and normal and that it shall pass. I even entered a room with a romanian hore last week who did creampies without protection after a date didnt end up with sex, see my point? (I didnt do it though) ;)
That's my point if presented with that I'm sure I'd make the same choice you did but I don't think I would trust myself
Nofap leads you to being less impulsive and more I'm control of yourself
Nofap leads you to being less impulsive and more I'm control of yourself
after what time frame ? For me it almost grows after 3 weeks till I bust a nut or kill someone :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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For me it was hard after 1-2 weeks.

Do you workout hard, eat a lot of healthy food, and focus on a job or career? There really is a lot of energy you can put into your day that will drain ur balls. Constantly move your thoughts from creampie to making actions that will later down the road lead to creampies.

I am now 19 days nofap and I can hold stronger eye contact and a confident smile even when rejected which I deem as a superpower.

Kill it at the gym! Or use the energy for a cold approach, it should feel like a relief to do a few sets
 

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That's my point if presented with that I'm sure I'd make the same choice you did but I don't think I would trust myself


after what time frame ? For me it almost grows after 3 weeks till I bust a nut or kill someone :)
Keep going. Till masterbation is not a consideration. Let a female do that for you
 

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It can, but I never go for more than one day. Any more than that and things don't work as normal...the bear goes into hibernation mode, as it were.
 

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Has this happen to you? In the past when I eat healthy workout 6 times a week and have little to no plates spinning. After about 3 weeks of no fap and healthy diet and exercise I will literally ignore certain red flags from a woman that just 3 weeks prior I wouldn't have. Also I would pump and dump a lower quality woman that 3 weeks prior I wouldn't have. I'm sure this is normal and testosterone building and looking for a release or something. Seems to me the only answer in that situation is to either fap once every 3 weeks or deal with coyote ugly.

Any of you get this? If so do you have a different way of dealing with it?
Forget three weeks, you need to go three months before you get any control over your libido. Once you have attained to some semblance of self-mastery, you will be in super-select mode.
 

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I noticed, nofap leads to certain things.

1) a sudden surge, you got loads of energy.
2) women tends to notice you a lot from f****ng far away (Remember kill the desperation? that stuff, women can smell you from a mile away), (no fap weirdly enough works on your favor only if don't have that desire) but doesn't mean they're going to get to their knees. You still have to approach them.
3) I try to focus my energy on my goals, works better. Especially calmness and mental stimuli.
4) It helps me rather focus on spinning plates easily. Oh i get to read a lot of books.

Like @mrgoodstuff said, once you reached that point you will feel different.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes. I was nofap for 8 months.
I usually have a steady supply of sex.

However, a couple times I was so horny I couldn't focus on day to day tasks.
A couple times I was so horny & determined not to fap I hit backpag
e and got $50 blow jobs.

Don't judge me,
Judge your mother.
 

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Yes. I was nofap for 8 months.
I usually have a steady supply of sex.

However, a couple times I was so horny I couldn't focus on day to day tasks.
A couple times I was so horny & determined not to fap I hit backpag
e and got $50 blow jobs.

Don't judge me,
Judge your mother.
My mom did what she could to put food on the table.
 

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Thanks. You'd be amazed how horny you get though. It was an animalistic level of horniness.

Its horny to the point It's uncomfortable.
You need a steady gf that gives it up on demand and whatever else you get out there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Worst case scenario for NoFap is monk mode with no plates :eek: Like this place, Abbey of Saint Scholastica

 
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