My Name is Nobody
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guru1000 said:NMIN, 28 deep and what have we learned ?
That I need to see a shrink?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
guru1000 said:NMIN, 28 deep and what have we learned ?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Uhhhhh, didn't we learn that by page 2?NMIN, 28 deep and what have we learned ?
That I need to see a shrink?
Hey this place is my therapy it seems to be workingMr. Me said:Uhhhhh, didn't we learn that by page 2?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You are KIDDING me, right? I don't believe this. A girl in drama mode who you are ignoring went out of her WAY to make you notice her to see if she'd get a reaction out of you? Say WHAT??? Are you sure you're being straight with us here? Next you're going to tell us you're keeping an alien in your closet and that he likes reeses pieces.My Name is Nobody said:she went ALL THE WAY out of her department to walk across the entire office and use the copy machine next to my desk and there is one right next to her desk. I saw her checking me out on her walk back but i didn't let her see me looking.
"My ego is fragile and I want to make sure I've still "got it". He's ignoring me. He's full of crap. He wants to talk to me. I'm going to make him uncomfortable and force him to do something to prove to MYSELF that I still "got it" and that he's really still into me. [btw she's right, and her strategy is working)My Name is Nobody said:What the hell is she thinking?
This is beyond that now. What do YOU WANT? To hit it again? Is it WORTH IT? Do you ENJOY the idea of a girl who was cruel to you all of the sudden being into you again? Do you know what she will think if you relapse and chase her again? She'll think..... "yeah. I still got it. Later skater."My Name is Nobody said:Any chance to convert her back into a plate and play it right this time? There has to be a way -- if she really "never wanted to see me again" she wouldn't have checked me out like that.
That was awesome!! You are right. I will not crack! She has my number, she can use it. I like what she is doing for some sick reason but I'm not gonna crack.reset said:You are KIDDING me, right? I don't believe this. A girl in drama mode who you are ignoring went out of her WAY to make you notice her to see if she'd get a reaction out of you? Say WHAT??? Are you sure you're being straight with us here? Next you're going to tell us you're keeping an alien in your closet and that he likes reeses pieces.
"My ego is fragile and I want to make sure I've still "got it". He's ignoring me. He's full of crap. He wants to talk to me. I'm going to make him uncomfortable and force him to do something to prove to MYSELF that I still "got it" and that he's really still into me. [btw she's right, and her strategy is working)
This is beyond that now. What do YOU WANT? To hit it again? Is it WORTH IT? Do you ENJOY the idea of a girl who was cruel to you all of the sudden being into you again? Do you know what she will think if you relapse and chase her again? She'll think..... "yeah. I still got it. Later skater."
That's right. It's sick. It's two egos playing off each other, two adults acting like little children. Here you have a girl who treated you like shyt so your ego is wounded, and all of the sudden you see this power you "seem" to have over her because you've got her making an effort to get your attention.My Name is Nobody said:I like what she is doing for some sick reason
Yeah, and I'm sure she noticed how I changed my shift to arrive to work after she is supposed to be gone. But she always stays late so I keep seeing her. I'm sure she thinks I changed only because of her and she gets a thrill out of that. She was part of the reason, but now I get weekends off so I would have changed it anyway. The opportunity just happened to arise right when all this drama unfolded. So it looks like I changed my shift because of the pain she is causing me. That would explain her nasty little smirk when she left today. Whatever!reset said:That's right. It's sick. It's two egos playing off each other, two adults acting like little children. Here you have a girl who treated you like shyt so your ego is wounded, and all of the sudden you see this power you "seem" to have over her because you've got her making an effort to get your attention.
But it's really about her ego. Sure maybe you're showing some strength and that's great and now she's confused (how much more predictable can this get?). And now YOUR ego is going off the charts because whatever sense of self you lost is back now, in a twisted form.
This is NOT love, or adult, or mature, or masculine. This is DRAMA. And it's for HIGH SCHOOL.
Dude don't let your sense of self be affected, and don't "get off" on how you're making her act. It's good you say you're not going to crack. It can be really hard. But try to rise ABOVE IT.
At the worst this cycle can go on for months and your brain will be sucked out by her. At BEST-- if you just keep ignoring her, and actually STOP CARING, and SHE gets over it a little and grows up HERSELF, you and her MAY be able to get along SORT OF, KIND OF being civil to each other. MAYBE.
This is a great opportunity for you to step back, figure out what matters in life, and decide how much of your energy you want to devote to drama and high school games. After going through this a few times myself, THAT is the most satisfying option.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This thread is like that HBO series Entourage. I can miss three or four episodes and come back to it still feeling like I know exactly what is going on.Hassan Chop said:First post in the DJ Forum.
THIS THREAD IS EPIC!!!!!
Would read again!!!!!
lol. I think at some point he'll see the pattern.MikeYikes122 said:This thread is like that HBO series Entourage. I can miss three or four episodes and come back to it still feeling like I know exactly what is going on.
wow! That's one page a day. Averaging 18 posts a day. It's a BEAST!Francisco d'Anconia said:BUCKETS!!
This thread is only a month old!!!![]()
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What happened to the [other] chick who had you head over heels?My Name is Nobody said:The lesson here-- don't mess with girls at work. I changed my shift to get away from her and now she is staying late walking by my desk. Wouldn't have an issue if I didn't have to see her I'd have forgotten her by now. For some reason seeing her p!sses me off and ruins my day.
I'll be contacting her tomorrow. I wouldnt say I'm head over heels I was drunk posting again.Francisco d'Anconia said:What happened to the [other] chick who had you head over heels?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.