"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does it bother you when people stare at you when you talking to a chick?

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It some time does bother me, I noticed people staring at me like I am a popular tv show, I feel like telling them to mind their own biz.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Which people? The girl's friends? They HAVE to look.

Your friends? They HAVE to look.

Strangers? They probably either like the girl or you so they HAVE to look.
 
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Just dont let it bother you bro, guys will obviously watch you because they didn't have the kahunas to approach the cute chick that you are talking to. They want to see you fail. Don't let it phase you. Even if you get shot down by the chick at least you tried man...they obviously respect you but want to watch the alpha male at work :D

And chicks are gonna watch too just because they want to see them some drama. No big. It helps your SP with them anyways because they saw you were man enough to talk to a chick anyways.
 
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ignore the other people. pretend like you know her already. they just stare cause you had the balls to approach. a lot of guys cant.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Here the best advice you'll ever get, stop giving a ****!.
 
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Stéphane said:
Here the best advice you'll ever get, stop giving a ****!.
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For real. Why pay that much attention to other people while having a conversation?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
For real. Why pay that much attention to other people while having a conversation?
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Cuz I see their big heads looking at me like am a tv show and it bothers me man!:eek:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Damn, insecurity is a mother... Most guys can't think of a way to get any attention while out. :cool:
 
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I love succeeding in closing whenever people are watching me.

They get the arrogant out-tongue/smile whenever it happens.
 
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The solution to this problem is quite simple. Talk to 5's and under or fat chicks.
 
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It doesn't bother me, but the amogs, the guys who butt in do. I'll never fight over a dame, but some guys Really got it coming to them, and are transparently jealous and flat out Rude trying to TAKE (physically) what's mine to begin with. But I'll let a prospective woman go if the dude thinks he can have her. I'm not fightin over a "potential" lay with a hot broad. Now if the dude is trying to show me up just to **** with me then it might be time to grab the cue ball or ashtray.
 
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I was always of the opinion that audiences exist because right at that moment your situation is more interesting than theirs. I just try to give them a performance that doesnt involve a blow-out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That would be my biggest pet peeve. It doesn't bother me when I am in public and it is people I don't know, only at my college since it has a small social scene and so many people (guys and girls) have nothing better to do then start drama and rumors. I learned that the hard way.
 
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Skepsis said:
Which people? The girl's friends? They HAVE to look.

Your friends? They HAVE to look.

Strangers? They probably either like the girl or you so they HAVE to look.
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Line 1: 100% true. c**kblock or not? Deal or no deal? They can be the deciding factor. Don't completely ignore them unless you have enough trust.

Line 2. 100% true. Act like the motherf**kers ain't there. It's when you keep acting like they're nags you f**k up.

Line 3. It's the girl they like, unless you're rich or famous. Act like they aren't there.

The point is, DON'T LET THIS SH*T BRING YOU DOWN! You can do very well if you don't over analyze what they're saying.:up:
 
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Maximus Rex said:
The solution to this problem is quite simple. Talk to 5's and under or fat chicks.
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Back to the drawing board for you! This sh*t ain't the cure-all medicine!

Lower your standards to avoid your problems? You are grounded mister!

I'd go with the cute (7-8) Far less likely to get turned down.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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