Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Does it bother you when people stare at you when you talking to a chick?

nando

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It some time does bother me, I noticed people staring at me like I am a popular tv show, I feel like telling them to mind their own biz.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Skepsis

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Which people? The girl's friends? They HAVE to look.

Your friends? They HAVE to look.

Strangers? They probably either like the girl or you so they HAVE to look.
 

LostAndConfused

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Just dont let it bother you bro, guys will obviously watch you because they didn't have the kahunas to approach the cute chick that you are talking to. They want to see you fail. Don't let it phase you. Even if you get shot down by the chick at least you tried man...they obviously respect you but want to watch the alpha male at work :D

And chicks are gonna watch too just because they want to see them some drama. No big. It helps your SP with them anyways because they saw you were man enough to talk to a chick anyways.
 

Ken785

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ignore the other people. pretend like you know her already. they just stare cause you had the balls to approach. a lot of guys cant.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stéphane

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Here the best advice you'll ever get, stop giving a ****!.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Stéphane said:
Here the best advice you'll ever get, stop giving a ****!.
For real. Why pay that much attention to other people while having a conversation?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
For real. Why pay that much attention to other people while having a conversation?
Cuz I see their big heads looking at me like am a tv show and it bothers me man!:eek:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Damn, insecurity is a mother... Most guys can't think of a way to get any attention while out. :cool:
 

Lord Shinra

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I love succeeding in closing whenever people are watching me.

They get the arrogant out-tongue/smile whenever it happens.
 

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The Remedy

The solution to this problem is quite simple. Talk to 5's and under or fat chicks.
 

Poonani Maker

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It doesn't bother me, but the amogs, the guys who butt in do. I'll never fight over a dame, but some guys Really got it coming to them, and are transparently jealous and flat out Rude trying to TAKE (physically) what's mine to begin with. But I'll let a prospective woman go if the dude thinks he can have her. I'm not fightin over a "potential" lay with a hot broad. Now if the dude is trying to show me up just to **** with me then it might be time to grab the cue ball or ashtray.
 

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I was always of the opinion that audiences exist because right at that moment your situation is more interesting than theirs. I just try to give them a performance that doesnt involve a blow-out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sam Adams

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That would be my biggest pet peeve. It doesn't bother me when I am in public and it is people I don't know, only at my college since it has a small social scene and so many people (guys and girls) have nothing better to do then start drama and rumors. I learned that the hard way.
 

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Skepsis said:
Which people? The girl's friends? They HAVE to look.

Your friends? They HAVE to look.

Strangers? They probably either like the girl or you so they HAVE to look.
Line 1: 100% true. c**kblock or not? Deal or no deal? They can be the deciding factor. Don't completely ignore them unless you have enough trust.

Line 2. 100% true. Act like the motherf**kers ain't there. It's when you keep acting like they're nags you f**k up.

Line 3. It's the girl they like, unless you're rich or famous. Act like they aren't there.

The point is, DON'T LET THIS SH*T BRING YOU DOWN! You can do very well if you don't over analyze what they're saying.:up:
 

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Maximus Rex said:
The solution to this problem is quite simple. Talk to 5's and under or fat chicks.
Back to the drawing board for you! This sh*t ain't the cure-all medicine!

Lower your standards to avoid your problems? You are grounded mister!

I'd go with the cute (7-8) Far less likely to get turned down.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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