"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Does her showing you on social media mean she;s proud of you?

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I have had this thought stir up my mind from time to time. I see certain couples on social media where the girl shows her boyfriend often or once in a while, sometimes intimate moments, sometimes not.

Does it mean a woman is proud of her partner when she shows him on social media, kind of like a "look what I got here" thing, or you find this unrelated to how proud and valuing she really is?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Billtx49

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Proud of, has intense feelings for, or he is a very important part of her life…
Take your pick. Three is a winner…
Only three months up on the pic during 5 years of being with you is a loser.
Watch her actions.
 
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Yeah she's likely into you and showing you off a bit. It's a good thing.
 

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Its like a wedding ring......trying to put on a show to validate herself amongst her friends.
 

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Proud of, has intense feelings for, or he is a very important part of her life…
Take your pick. Three is a winner…
Only three months up on the pic during 5 years of being with you is a loser.
Watch her actions.
Disagree. IME #1 reason girls post you on SM is as a validation set piece.
#2 is to make her ex/guy who wouldn't commit jealous--Look, this guy comitted to me.
#3 Is to throw her bf off the trail for potential infidelity or appeal to his ego to manipulate him.

Reformed slvts post their boyfriends more on SM (girls with high SMV but low RMV)--part of their image reform, plus guys don't readily offer their commitment so it's an event. Personally, if I meet a girl with a bf, the more she posts about him the better my chances are; the ones in the strongest relationships usually don't have the need to advertise it a ton (it's fulfilling for them in and of itself).
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've found that any girl that's had me with her alone in her profile picture has normally been into me.
 

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Women are extremelly social creatures so i'm betting on Yes.
Probably showing off the prize, or rubbing the guy into other girl's faces, something like that.
 

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I tend to personally agree with @fastlife here, in fact. I think in most cases, it is just them trying to show off their prize. Never liked it when they do it also because it reduces the guy;s chances of dealing with other girls.
 

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Disagree. IME #1 reason girls post you on SM is as a validation set piece.
#2 is to make her ex/guy who wouldn't commit jealous--Look, this guy comitted to me.
#3 Is to throw her bf off the trail for potential infidelity or appeal to his ego to manipulate him.

Reformed slvts post their boyfriends more on SM (girls with high SMV but low RMV)--part of their image reform, plus guys don't readily offer their commitment so it's an event. Personally, if I meet a girl with a bf, the more she posts about him the better my chances are; the ones in the strongest relationships usually don't have the need to advertise it a ton (it's fulfilling for them in and of itself).
Could be...could be showing him off and really like the guy. Every situation is different
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some female comedian in some part of some routine on some video I saw described the "taking the man home to meet mom" scenario as:

"Hey! Look what I caught!"

So, yeah, maybe she's proud, but not the way most guys like to think.
 
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