You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ryannath said:I think Fox News has hotter chicks than CNN. Julie Banderas is hot http://www.super-hair.net/banderas4.JPG , and so is Laurie Dhue, the blonde. http://www.adrants.com/images/dhue.jpg
She's leaving FOX for CNN, I guess she's made it on the hot scale.Potbelly said:2 words:
Kiran Chetry
Speaking of FOX, that Jane Skinner has a dirty mind, this woman just can't wait to go home and get some:Francisco d'Anconia said:She's leaving FOX for CNN, I guess she's made it on the hot scale.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeahhhhhh, she was wet....DJDamage said:Speaking of FOX, that Jane Skinner has a dirty mind, this woman just can't wait to go home and get some:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvGLgmj4lWk
Wow are you an idiot? Do you know anything? She already left FOX long ago and has been working for CNN for a while.Francisco d'Anconia said:She's leaving FOX for CNN, I guess she's made it on the hot scale.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I knew that there was contract negotiations going on but I thought that CNN offered a better deal.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Actually...I think she was fired, heh.
http://www.postchronicle.com/cgi-bin/artman/exec/view.cgi?archive=9&num=64883
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It's been all of a month, but I guess that seems like a lifetime if you're a juvenile. :rockon:Potbelly said:Wow are you an idiot? Do you know anything? She already left FOX long ago and has been working for CNN for a while.
Dude, next time don't act like you know something when you don't because I can tell that you spent 2 secs googling it.:rockon:
Glad that I can keep you interested PB, you're the highlight of my day.Potbelly said:you know what, I actually felt bad for going off on yuo, but not anymore.
you're arrogant ass still won't admit that you don't know anything. fess up to not knowing stuff about this from your previous posts. yeah a month, well that's not exactly currently like you thought it was now was it? I guess time goes slower for older people too