"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Does anyone do an approach when a HB is talking on her cell?

qstorm501

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Oh should you say f*ck it and not approach. I passed up 2 approaches yesterday because both HBs were yappin on their cell. One was going in CVS as i was going out so I turned around and went back in lol...Sure enough when i made my move to approach she was talking on her phone being really animated. So i just walked passed her it threw me off...another i was taking a jog in a park and a HB was sitting down talking on her cell.. I wanted to approach then too but the talking made me hesitate.

Any good ideas on approaching when there talking .. Or should I just say screw it if their on the phone?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ChrizZ

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qstorm501 said:
Oh should you say f*ck it and not approach. I passed up 2 approaches yesterday because both HBs were yappin on their cell. One was going in CVS as i was going out so I turned around and went back in lol...Sure enough when i made my move to approach she was talking on her phone being really animated. So i just walked passed her it threw me off...another i was taking a jog in a park and a HB was sitting down talking on her cell.. I wanted to approach then too but the talking made me hesitate.

Any good ideas on approaching when there talking .. Or should I just say screw it if their on the phone?
"hang up!"
 

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qstorm501 said:
LOL ChrizZ... Have you actually tried that before and what was the reaction?
Yes I have. She hung up and then I said: "You shouldn't be talking on the phone. You should be talking to me!"
She was actually smiling and happy to talk to me.
 

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ChrizZ said:
Yes I have. She hung up and then I said: "You shouldn't be talking on the phone. You should be talking to me!"
She was actually smiling and happy to talk to me.

Thanks.. that sounds pretty slick..might have to try that one
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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afc no more

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ChrizZ said:
Yes I have. She hung up and then I said: "You shouldn't be talking on the phone. You should be talking to me!"
She was actually smiling and happy to talk to me.
does anyone actually believe this happened?
 

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Unless you got decent to good looks I clearly dont see that working.I mean confidence all the way yeah but if you look like a ****ed up guy then I dont care how good looking you are I just think your chances of success are lower.

For this I have two ways that I would go:

-If shes talking on her phone while not even seeing/noticing me,then I just do/pretend whatever it is in the moment until shes finished then make an approach that way.
-If she sees you and shes talking,unless you really feel that spark or connection by the eye contact,scrap it.
 

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I'd only do it if there was some clear indicator she wasn't trying to be on the phone. If it looks/seems important I'll leave her alone.
 

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619joe said:
Unless you got decent to good looks I clearly dont see that working.I mean confidence all the way yeah but if you look like a ****ed up guy then I dont care how good looking you are I just think your chances of success are lower.

For this I have two ways that I would go:

-If shes talking on her phone while not even seeing/noticing me,then I just do/pretend whatever it is in the moment until shes finished then make an approach that way.
-If she sees you and shes talking,unless you really feel that spark or connection by the eye contact,scrap it.
Well, I have to admit that I'm tall, good looking, dress in suits and I'm completely unaffected when it comes down to how she reacts.


Stop being scared of women fellas. She should be happy to talk to a real man and not some dude that circles her like a shark and waits until she hangs up.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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