"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does anyone do an approach when a HB is talking on her cell?

qstorm501

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Oh should you say f*ck it and not approach. I passed up 2 approaches yesterday because both HBs were yappin on their cell. One was going in CVS as i was going out so I turned around and went back in lol...Sure enough when i made my move to approach she was talking on her phone being really animated. So i just walked passed her it threw me off...another i was taking a jog in a park and a HB was sitting down talking on her cell.. I wanted to approach then too but the talking made me hesitate.

Any good ideas on approaching when there talking .. Or should I just say screw it if their on the phone?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ChrizZ

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qstorm501 said:
Oh should you say f*ck it and not approach. I passed up 2 approaches yesterday because both HBs were yappin on their cell. One was going in CVS as i was going out so I turned around and went back in lol...Sure enough when i made my move to approach she was talking on her phone being really animated. So i just walked passed her it threw me off...another i was taking a jog in a park and a HB was sitting down talking on her cell.. I wanted to approach then too but the talking made me hesitate.

Any good ideas on approaching when there talking .. Or should I just say screw it if their on the phone?
"hang up!"
 

ChrizZ

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qstorm501 said:
LOL ChrizZ... Have you actually tried that before and what was the reaction?
Yes I have. She hung up and then I said: "You shouldn't be talking on the phone. You should be talking to me!"
She was actually smiling and happy to talk to me.
 

qstorm501

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ChrizZ said:
Yes I have. She hung up and then I said: "You shouldn't be talking on the phone. You should be talking to me!"
She was actually smiling and happy to talk to me.

Thanks.. that sounds pretty slick..might have to try that one
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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afc no more

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ChrizZ said:
Yes I have. She hung up and then I said: "You shouldn't be talking on the phone. You should be talking to me!"
She was actually smiling and happy to talk to me.
does anyone actually believe this happened?
 

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Unless you got decent to good looks I clearly dont see that working.I mean confidence all the way yeah but if you look like a ****ed up guy then I dont care how good looking you are I just think your chances of success are lower.

For this I have two ways that I would go:

-If shes talking on her phone while not even seeing/noticing me,then I just do/pretend whatever it is in the moment until shes finished then make an approach that way.
-If she sees you and shes talking,unless you really feel that spark or connection by the eye contact,scrap it.
 

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I'd only do it if there was some clear indicator she wasn't trying to be on the phone. If it looks/seems important I'll leave her alone.
 

ChrizZ

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619joe said:
Unless you got decent to good looks I clearly dont see that working.I mean confidence all the way yeah but if you look like a ****ed up guy then I dont care how good looking you are I just think your chances of success are lower.

For this I have two ways that I would go:

-If shes talking on her phone while not even seeing/noticing me,then I just do/pretend whatever it is in the moment until shes finished then make an approach that way.
-If she sees you and shes talking,unless you really feel that spark or connection by the eye contact,scrap it.
Well, I have to admit that I'm tall, good looking, dress in suits and I'm completely unaffected when it comes down to how she reacts.


Stop being scared of women fellas. She should be happy to talk to a real man and not some dude that circles her like a shark and waits until she hangs up.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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