Do you trust women?

[Jariel]

Just a very simple question, but I'm curious how many guys here have trust issues or are generally cynical about women.

Please answer honestly.

 

[flippinfreak]

This is more a question for the 'mature' men.

 

[TheTrader]

i trust them to behave like woman behaves, so shall i vote yes or no?

 

[Jariel]

I know I should answer that I judge them individually, but I voted for "mostly" because of all the women I know, only a small percentage have given me reason to distrust them. Sure, I've been hurt and betrayed VERY badly, but by less than 10 women (that I can recall), which is very small compared to the 100s of female friends and dozens of decent girlfriends and dates I've had.

People who voted rarely or no, well I guess their experiences with women have been very negative.

I'm not sure which is worse - trusting and getting betrayed by women, or being restricted by distrust. But obviously our experiences shape how we perceive other people.

 

[picard]

I am cautious when approaching women. They are like wild animals; they aren't domesticated.

 

[Brian20o2]

I trust them to be women. By that I mean, I know that women change their minds at random for who knows what reasons and often do things they said they never would.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I trust them to be women. By that I mean, I know that women change their minds at random for who knows what reasons and often do things they said they never would.

Sounds more like you trust yourself to know what they are about and to act accordingly. 'Authentic' trust has more to do with yourself than it does the other person.

Just something to consider.

 

[flippinfreak]

Jariel:

I chose to say I judge them individually, until than I will enjoy calling it seduction.

 

[VegasGuy56]

I don't trust women...period.

So far I haven't met a single woman who hasn't blatantly lied to my face for one reason or another. Even my LTR GFs lie. I've always hated liars, but now I realize that in relationships lying is fair game. Sad...

 

[Silverback82]

I have trouble trusting people in general

man or woman

 

[belividere]

For the most part I pretty much trust women, really I pretty much trust most people. I'm very laid back and not controlling in the least bit. To my knowledge, no girl has cheated on me. The only girlfriend that I ever actually lied to had serious trust issues and got extremely jealous over nothing.

To the people who said no, how do you manage to maintain a relationship if you cannot trust a woman?

 

[Friendly Otter]

I trust them to, on average, make decisions on a different basis than men. To men the objective truth has more value than to women. To women, what is safe has more value. Safety for themselves and those around them. If that means hiding truths, or betraying honor, then they will do so. I don't believe the word honor has much meaning to them - it is far too abstract, and doesn't provide any safety.

For example: a man may choose a battle he knows he cannot win simply because it is the honorable thing to do. He knows he'll go down - that could mean getting his grades lowered, being ostracized, getting beaten up, or being shot in the battlefield - but he feels that honor compels him; he may feel that maybe it will set an example and do some good that way, or simply that honor itself is worth something.

To women, I believe, this is incomprehensible. Granted: it is, today, incomprehensible to many Western men as well, immature and soft and modern as most of them are. But to women, even more so. I know I have never in my whole life heard a woman speak of honor, but I have heard men speak of it. Women seem to hate the concept.

So do I trust women? I trust them to act in accordance with their nature. They will help me if it is safe or neutral for them to do so, not otherwise.

 

[KontrollerX]

No.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

I trust people until they give me a reason not to.

 

[( . )( . )]

I trust them to be women. By that I mean, I know that women change their minds at random for who knows what reasons and often do things they said they never would.

Bingo, beat me to it. And from a 17 year old aswell, the kids light years ahead of you jariella you could probably learn something here.

P.S I notice you sneakily brought out the society shaming techniques by saying anyone who votes NO has "issues with women", nice.

 

[don juan jr]

i have trust issues with everyone (male or female)

but generally i judge the individual

 

[Jariel]

P.S I notice you sneakily brought out the society shaming techniques by saying anyone who votes NO has "issues with women", nice.

I never said that. I said that they must've had negative experiences with women and that their distrust must be restricting.

I have purposely withheld my opinion from this thread, but just wanted to see how people's trust reflects in their posts. I believe my experiences with women are mostly positive because I think positively, while the reverse can be said of those who think negatively.

 

[bbestar]

haha, I don't even trust my mom.


They need to know there place in the world

 

[Skilla_Staz]

I judge individually. They always start out with me not trusting them. They have to earn it.

 

[Scumfrog]

Generally speaking I don't trust most men or women. I'm sure there is a fair share of trustworthy women out there. People have to earn your trust, but I think women are capable of being as trustworthy as men.