"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you think there is a connection between being unemployed and developing an addiction to p0rn?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/9/15/17859134/recession-financial-crisis-2018-men

There seems to be a lot of "p0rn addicition" here:

I also spoke with guys like Yates, a former partner at a law firm in the Northeast who quit his job in his 40s. Although he became a stay-at-home dad, he did not look for work, instead depending on his soon-to-be ex-wife’s income. He got into trouble with the IRS, abused prescription drugs, and became addicted to pornography; eventually his wife divorced him. He is one of many in the well-educated, relatively well-to-do category.
I also spoke to many women whose husbands didn’t work. Many of them told me about not only increased emotional and financial stress but also problems including alcoholism, porn addiction, and increased anger from the men in their lives.
my opinion: I think it's just that these men have LOTS of free time for the first time in their lives during the internet era, and it's near impossible to not come across this. Do an experiment: make up a common woman's name and do an internet search and go to images; I guarantee that there is going to be a least one nudie pic in the list. And if you go that link, you will be in a vortex of nudie pics very quickly. This might be the first time since reading their friends' Playboy/Penthouse/Hustler mags in high school that they've seen p0rn.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If your unemployed you should be looking for work. That means less free time.
 

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Definitely!

If you're unemployed, your chances of meeting chicks and getting laid, will dramatically will decrease!

You may not have the funds to go out to the bars and clubs, or to dress well.

Men without employment are much more likely to develop some form of depression, which is NEVER an attractive thing to a female..

Confidence levels drop, health goes down hill, unless you still make an effort to hit the gym.

In this situation , the quickest and easiest solution for most dudes would more than likely be, to jack off to porn.
 

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/9/15/17859134/recession-financial-crisis-2018-men

There seems to be a lot of "p0rn addicition" here:





my opinion: I think it's just that these men have LOTS of free time for the first time in their lives during the internet era, and it's near impossible to not come across this. Do an experiment: make up a common woman's name and do an internet search and go to images; I guarantee that there is going to be a least one nudie pic in the list. And if you go that link, you will be in a vortex of nudie pics very quickly. This might be the first time since reading their friends' Playboy/Penthouse/Hustler mags in high school that they've seen p0rn.
In all these cases these men had an SO. Guess their wives were not good enough for them after all.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Your job if you have no job is to look for a job...

Excuses...
 

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You can't jerk off full time. I tried... you'll get sore and raw, not to mention, feeling bad for not accomplishing anything constructive.

This whole wanking + porn thing is blown way out of proportion.

Nobody wants to put Mr. Happy into the meat grinder. OUCH!!!:eek:
 

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No.
 

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What if you are "retired"?
Or...own your own business. Business owners are not employees, and are therefore 'unemployed'.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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