"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do you think there is a connection between being unemployed and developing an addiction to p0rn?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/9/15/17859134/recession-financial-crisis-2018-men

There seems to be a lot of "p0rn addicition" here:

I also spoke with guys like Yates, a former partner at a law firm in the Northeast who quit his job in his 40s. Although he became a stay-at-home dad, he did not look for work, instead depending on his soon-to-be ex-wife’s income. He got into trouble with the IRS, abused prescription drugs, and became addicted to pornography; eventually his wife divorced him. He is one of many in the well-educated, relatively well-to-do category.
I also spoke to many women whose husbands didn’t work. Many of them told me about not only increased emotional and financial stress but also problems including alcoholism, porn addiction, and increased anger from the men in their lives.
my opinion: I think it's just that these men have LOTS of free time for the first time in their lives during the internet era, and it's near impossible to not come across this. Do an experiment: make up a common woman's name and do an internet search and go to images; I guarantee that there is going to be a least one nudie pic in the list. And if you go that link, you will be in a vortex of nudie pics very quickly. This might be the first time since reading their friends' Playboy/Penthouse/Hustler mags in high school that they've seen p0rn.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If your unemployed you should be looking for work. That means less free time.
 

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Definitely!

If you're unemployed, your chances of meeting chicks and getting laid, will dramatically will decrease!

You may not have the funds to go out to the bars and clubs, or to dress well.

Men without employment are much more likely to develop some form of depression, which is NEVER an attractive thing to a female..

Confidence levels drop, health goes down hill, unless you still make an effort to hit the gym.

In this situation , the quickest and easiest solution for most dudes would more than likely be, to jack off to porn.
 

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/9/15/17859134/recession-financial-crisis-2018-men

There seems to be a lot of "p0rn addicition" here:





my opinion: I think it's just that these men have LOTS of free time for the first time in their lives during the internet era, and it's near impossible to not come across this. Do an experiment: make up a common woman's name and do an internet search and go to images; I guarantee that there is going to be a least one nudie pic in the list. And if you go that link, you will be in a vortex of nudie pics very quickly. This might be the first time since reading their friends' Playboy/Penthouse/Hustler mags in high school that they've seen p0rn.
In all these cases these men had an SO. Guess their wives were not good enough for them after all.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your job if you have no job is to look for a job...

Excuses...
 

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You can't jerk off full time. I tried... you'll get sore and raw, not to mention, feeling bad for not accomplishing anything constructive.

This whole wanking + porn thing is blown way out of proportion.

Nobody wants to put Mr. Happy into the meat grinder. OUCH!!!:eek:
 

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No.
 

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What if you are "retired"?
Or...own your own business. Business owners are not employees, and are therefore 'unemployed'.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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