Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
With ur current level, you'll be singing the same tunes abt NYC as you are now in ur current location.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
But those guys are chad-tier.
I think he'd fail miserably in NYC. To add insult to injury, the ladies in metro NYC would not treat him kindly.
"Nice"? Shes looking for a smouldering dude who makes her body feel something.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not for him. He's around 5'7'' and 125 LBS.
lol he said he likes chicks 5'3 - 5'10
Actually about 5 9 and 125lbs
I don't know dude. You keep on changing your height.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Always said about 5-9. Weight fluctuates between 117 and 127. Summer when I sweat a ton I tend to weigh less.
Jesus Christ...hit the 24 hour McDonald's and don't leave until you gain 40 lbs. No wonder why you can't get laid. What woman wants a guy she can manhandle??
He cant reach me. I have him on ignore.
Needs to be muscle or else it's belly fat if you put on 40lbs. The 49 year old teacher was a hot little petite woman. About 5-1 so she only came up to the bottom of my chin. I weigh more than her.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I agree. I do great in an area of about 40k people (30 mile radius).
Jesus says to help the less fortunate.
LOL. Never thought a dude at 5'7'' could be 125LBS. Aaron Clarey is 5'7'' and is around 145LBS. True, a lady 5'4 or so could range from 110LBS - his weight and higher. He goes for the taller ladies, and they have 10+ LBS or more.
I was 154 at one time and looked chunky because all my weight goes into the belly and upper legs.
How many people are on there in your area of 40k? In my area larger than that within 25-30 miles you can go a few days without seeing anyone other than a couple land whales on there. Bumble my county for 4 days no one even on there. The average age of my city is 66.9 years old, 28k. Could that be a factor? I went 3 days on Match without anyone within a 25 mile radius other than 2 land whales but can look up near Tampa and see hundreds of women online.
I love cappie. Its evident that trillions of the student loan debt is being paid by sugar daddy's. It is hilarious that women are disgusting and needy. Reliant on Men and or daddy government.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.