Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I swear, I get a new friend invite every other day, but only one in 20 of them isn't whale-bait.She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No because 95% of all girls are insucure and prob wont add to itFrancisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah that's what I'm doing now. I just get this constant stream of oinkers trying to holler at me. Every time I get a message from one, I just want to send them something back that says, "J00 fat. Go 'way."Bonhomme said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If chicks look at your photo and think "my god, he's HOT," then this is cool. If you're an average-looking guy though and have THAT in your profile, they'll find it to be exceedingly lame. Also, get rid of the shrek / fat chick reference. It makes you look like someone with low standards. High-status guys have DOZENS of 'disqualifying factors' and if you list just one and particularly that one, what that communicates is: "i'm not too picky, as long as they're not obese or something...". I don't mean to sound critical, but that's just what chicks will think when they see that stuffShezz said:
If you want something cool to put in under "what i look for in a woman," try "uniqueness" or "passion" or something along those lines that'll make a girl wonder "wait, do *I* have this? I wonder if he thinks i do!" For occupations, if you wanna do something playful, try Taco Bell VP of Burrito Inspection, Lemonade Stand CEO (this is what i'm using haha), Male Escort (105% off today!), etc. Even though they're stuffed with fluff?Vulpine said:
Yeah, but give me fit and insecure over fat and insecure anyday!Tomatoes said:No because 95% of all girls are insucure and prob wont add to it
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dude, I've heard that dogs will worship anything too as long as its covered in peanut butter; what's the difference?Driven2Succeed said:
Do a field test. Make the most oulandish profile you can like you are the Pickiest ******* in the world. See how many replies you get over the next few days. Then put up your old profile and see how many you get. Then compare.squirrels said:...on my MySpace profile would deter the hot ones from trying to talk to me, because I seem "shallow" or "mean"?
It's already being done in another thread and the replies are being posted.Call_Me_Daddy said:
Where?Francisco d'Anconia said:
How so?Analytic said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.