Create Reality
Master Don Juan
If a guy is so involved in his mind with the "bigger picture", do you think he could take a time out and be able to please a woman?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The true DJ Prophet knows women are there to please him.Create Reality said:If a guy is so involved in his mind with the "bigger picture", do you think he could take a time out and be able to please a woman?
Nope.If a guy is so involved in his mind with the "bigger picture", do you think he could take a time out and be able to please a woman?
This is kinda what I'm thinking too. A guy who generally tries to have a deep conversation with a woman isn't talking for the same reasons as the girl. She can just smile and nod but at the end of the day most woman don't even give a crap I suppose. I think if your philosophy hasn't wooed anyone or gained you any status, it's sort of a lost cause.danielzxc said:Nope.
Not unless he had some experience with women before becoming so involved with philosophy that he thinks about it all day every day. But even then, I don't think he'd please one enough to keep her.
I really don't where the hell this idea (that I have read quite a few times) comes from that woman are fascinated by deep thinkers. Maybe deep thinkers with deep pockets, but then it's not really the thinking that does it.
Deep thinkers are typically deeply non-sexual and are so engrossed in their subject matter that what they say flies over the top of chicks' heads, despite it sounding momentarily impressive, or else it just plain bores them from the start.
Maybe if you're at a level where your status precedes you (like Voltaire), chicks will dig you. But again, it's your status they'll be digging, not your thoughts -- or your thoughts, but only to the extent that they impress other people present.
Pleasure, acceptance by others and OFFSPRING! Everything is based around sex, why do you need a job that gets you MONEY? So you can get a car, house and food. Which is all needed for having kids and a family.cant think of a user name said:for existentialists, what is the meaning of getting laid?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
:crackup:cant think of a user name said:for existentialists, what is the meaning of getting laid?
Glad someone read my postFrancisco d'Anconia said::crackup::crackup:
Hey man, I appreciate you explaining that but I think you skimmed over my post a little too quick. Keyword: existentialists.PeterNorthisawesome said:Pleasure, acceptance by others and OFFSPRING! Everything is based around sex, why do you need a job that gets you MONEY? So you can get a car, house and food. Which is all needed for having kids and a family.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ain't that the truth. If you're in philosophy mode all the time you'll do nothing but annoy people.CrunchyNut said:Im currently midway through a BA in philosophy, an I dont do too badly for myself. I agree with The Forms- philosophy is a really handy tool for life, and contributes massively towards forming coherent discussions and arguments. I also agree that you do need to be able to turn the philosophy on and off though-as far as I have discovered, girls don't find people being pedantic all that attractive!
Why coffee shops and not bars, what about hospital car parks or theme parks or at the beach. :crazy:Infected Mushroom said:yes they do, but you have to know your audience, you have to pick up chicks at places like coffee shops and not bars or night clubs.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.