"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you stand a chance if your not funny?

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Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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but if i come of serious does it look like i have no confidence?
 

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Serious is ok. Chicks that are attracted to you won't mind you being serious.

It won't make you look less confident if you "own it."

You can still have interesting things to talk about. You just aren't a dancing monkey.

I've never heard a girl say, "I'm looking for a FUNNY guy to F tonight."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I consider myself pretty funny in real life..

The funny thing about it is everyone wants to be around you, but nobody really respects you.

I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.

Anyone else understand where I'm coming from?

But it also depends, being funny always seems to attract these happy go lucky women that live in a bubble, which I don't really want.
 

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Your sense of humor is fine and dandy but it's in the grey area of attraction. Humor won't upgrade your body and bank. Merely it's an add on to your game.

Get equipped.
 

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Smok1nAce said:
Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
If a girl's IL is high, she's going to laugh even at your bad jokes. Don't think you're not funny; just keep doing it (as needed, don't overdo). Everything comes with practice anyway.

I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.
I notice that as well; but those girls are no fun to me. :(

EDIT: Also depends how attractive you are; If you're very attractive being more funny is useful to loosen the girl up so she thinks she has a chance.
 

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I'm a pretty funny guy and I'd say its probably one of my biggest tools.

Like last night I was out with a girl and we got to the "what do you like in guys?" and she said she likes funny guys. I've never met a girl who doesnt like to laugh but if its just not you, dont bother. She also said she doesnt like awkward guys, so that got me thinking. Do girls like the funny side or do they just not want to feel awkward and I think its a bit of both. Being serious is fine but it can get awkward because if its a casual thing, its meant to be fun and in my opinion its hard to be fun when you're not that funny.

I think humour is important because it can defuse situations, like if something is slightly awkward you can call it out and make a little joke, it will put her at ease.

Little roleplays can be fun but not necessarily funny. I have a couple of day2 roleplays that i throw out, you can pretend you're speed dating(I act like a total AFC at this point and ask really penetrating questions but under the guise of the speed dating you can get away with it, you can sexualise it and move the interaction forward)
 

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Do you stand a chance if you are not funny?

Absolutely not.


Knock knock...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This is an important thing to address - there is a FINE line between being funny with a great sense of humor, to becoming a 'Nice Guy' and get friendzoned.

You need to show you can make her laugh, but at the same time - still retain the respect as a 'sexually dangerous' man in her mind and not become a 'Funny Nice Guy' and get her sexually turned off.

SamTheHobbit had a point - you can't smile and laugh ALL the time. You must retain the manliness that a woman unconsciously looks for. A man is meant to be a man, not a clown. However, get her to laugh, and you are half way there to her cr0tch and a preview of sex in the city.
 

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Humor is not a bad thing. It can even be an asset as long as you don't drift into dancing monkey territory. I just don't think it's essential.

I really liked Sage (no homo), but I think his humor was hurting his game. He was a VERY funny dude, even hysterical sometimes. But it wasn't getting him laid.
 

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A long time ago, Eddie Murphy was a stand-up comedian who was actually funny. I had his first cassette tape :) and I listened to it until it fell apart. At one point he tells a joke...and no one laughs...and then he says, "I don't care, I think the sh!t is funny."

To me, that's the difference between a sense of humor that is attractive to a woman, versus being a juggling clown on a unicycle. You make observations based upon what cracks you up; if no one else gets the joke, that's their problem.
 

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You don't have to be funny but you do have to be fun. And when you're fun things that aren't really funny will seem funnier to women.

Be willing to laugh at yourself and her. Gently tease yourself and her. You will tap into a more playful side and it will easier to get into a zone where laughter come easier.

Just let your hair down and stop being serious. It's SUPPOSED to be fun this dating stuff.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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GotED? said:
Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!





(please.... the only hair I let down are the ones in between my legs) :eek:
Gag me with a spoon.
 

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Espi said:
In my opinion, EVERYTHING hinges on how comfortable you are with just being "yourself." I find that the most genuine, confident, driven, and passionate people in this world also happen to be the most attractive, and humor is one of those attractive qualities that emanates from just simply being content in life. When you feel good about yourself and others around you, humor, in my opinion, will naturally manifest...because you're thinking, speaking and acting from the heart...no filter. Some people will find freethinking individuals funny; others will find them repulsive.

Acting dead serious can crack a person up. You don't have to be a comedian.
This is actually something I've come to believe as of late. I think we're all born with 'talents' so to speak and we're all naturally attractive when we use them to their fullest and stop trying to pretend to be something we're not.
 

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Charles Manson got more pvssy than this entire board combined (even though he spent most of his adult life in prison). Heck, women were literally willing to kill for him. Yet, he doesn't strike me as a particularly funny or humorous kind of guy.
 
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