She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If a girl's IL is high, she's going to laugh even at your bad jokes. Don't think you're not funny; just keep doing it (as needed, don't overdo). Everything comes with practice anyway.Smok1nAce said:Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
I notice that as well; but those girls are no fun to me.I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!FairShake said:Just let your hair down and stop being serious. .
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Gag me with a spoon.GotED? said:Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!
(please.... the only hair I let down are the ones in between my legs)![]()
This is actually something I've come to believe as of late. I think we're all born with 'talents' so to speak and we're all naturally attractive when we use them to their fullest and stop trying to pretend to be something we're not.Espi said:In my opinion, EVERYTHING hinges on how comfortable you are with just being "yourself." I find that the most genuine, confident, driven, and passionate people in this world also happen to be the most attractive, and humor is one of those attractive qualities that emanates from just simply being content in life. When you feel good about yourself and others around you, humor, in my opinion, will naturally manifest...because you're thinking, speaking and acting from the heart...no filter. Some people will find freethinking individuals funny; others will find them repulsive.
Acting dead serious can crack a person up. You don't have to be a comedian.