Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Do you stand a chance if your not funny?

Smok1nAce

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 14, 2013
Messages
624
Reaction score
573
Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
 

Smok1nAce

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 14, 2013
Messages
624
Reaction score
573
but if i come of serious does it look like i have no confidence?
 

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,010
Reaction score
4,522
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
Serious is ok. Chicks that are attracted to you won't mind you being serious.

It won't make you look less confident if you "own it."

You can still have interesting things to talk about. You just aren't a dancing monkey.

I've never heard a girl say, "I'm looking for a FUNNY guy to F tonight."
 

SamTheHobit

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2011
Messages
1,522
Reaction score
95
Location
South Africa
I consider myself pretty funny in real life..

The funny thing about it is everyone wants to be around you, but nobody really respects you.

I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.

Anyone else understand where I'm coming from?

But it also depends, being funny always seems to attract these happy go lucky women that live in a bubble, which I don't really want.
 

Megaman XIV

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 18, 2009
Messages
205
Reaction score
7
Location
Blytheville, Arkansas
Your sense of humor is fine and dandy but it's in the grey area of attraction. Humor won't upgrade your body and bank. Merely it's an add on to your game.

Get equipped.
 

whatwg

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 25, 2013
Messages
53
Reaction score
1
Smok1nAce said:
Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
If a girl's IL is high, she's going to laugh even at your bad jokes. Don't think you're not funny; just keep doing it (as needed, don't overdo). Everything comes with practice anyway.

I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.
I notice that as well; but those girls are no fun to me. :(

EDIT: Also depends how attractive you are; If you're very attractive being more funny is useful to loosen the girl up so she thinks she has a chance.
 

Mr Wright

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 19, 2010
Messages
973
Reaction score
233
Location
London, UK
I'm a pretty funny guy and I'd say its probably one of my biggest tools.

Like last night I was out with a girl and we got to the "what do you like in guys?" and she said she likes funny guys. I've never met a girl who doesnt like to laugh but if its just not you, dont bother. She also said she doesnt like awkward guys, so that got me thinking. Do girls like the funny side or do they just not want to feel awkward and I think its a bit of both. Being serious is fine but it can get awkward because if its a casual thing, its meant to be fun and in my opinion its hard to be fun when you're not that funny.

I think humour is important because it can defuse situations, like if something is slightly awkward you can call it out and make a little joke, it will put her at ease.

Little roleplays can be fun but not necessarily funny. I have a couple of day2 roleplays that i throw out, you can pretend you're speed dating(I act like a total AFC at this point and ask really penetrating questions but under the guise of the speed dating you can get away with it, you can sexualise it and move the interaction forward)
 

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,398
Reaction score
2,700
Location
Texas
Do you stand a chance if you are not funny?

Absolutely not.


Knock knock...
 

GotED?

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2012
Messages
829
Reaction score
99
Location
The Viagra Pill you wish you had...- United Kingdo
This is an important thing to address - there is a FINE line between being funny with a great sense of humor, to becoming a 'Nice Guy' and get friendzoned.

You need to show you can make her laugh, but at the same time - still retain the respect as a 'sexually dangerous' man in her mind and not become a 'Funny Nice Guy' and get her sexually turned off.

SamTheHobbit had a point - you can't smile and laugh ALL the time. You must retain the manliness that a woman unconsciously looks for. A man is meant to be a man, not a clown. However, get her to laugh, and you are half way there to her cr0tch and a preview of sex in the city.
 

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,010
Reaction score
4,522
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
Humor is not a bad thing. It can even be an asset as long as you don't drift into dancing monkey territory. I just don't think it's essential.

I really liked Sage (no homo), but I think his humor was hurting his game. He was a VERY funny dude, even hysterical sometimes. But it wasn't getting him laid.
 

Bible_Belt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
17,034
Reaction score
5,621
Age
48
Location
midwestern cow field 40
A long time ago, Eddie Murphy was a stand-up comedian who was actually funny. I had his first cassette tape :) and I listened to it until it fell apart. At one point he tells a joke...and no one laughs...and then he says, "I don't care, I think the sh!t is funny."

To me, that's the difference between a sense of humor that is attractive to a woman, versus being a juggling clown on a unicycle. You make observations based upon what cracks you up; if no one else gets the joke, that's their problem.
 

FairShake

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 8, 2008
Messages
2,450
Reaction score
311
You don't have to be funny but you do have to be fun. And when you're fun things that aren't really funny will seem funnier to women.

Be willing to laugh at yourself and her. Gently tease yourself and her. You will tap into a more playful side and it will easier to get into a zone where laughter come easier.

Just let your hair down and stop being serious. It's SUPPOSED to be fun this dating stuff.
 

FairShake

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 8, 2008
Messages
2,450
Reaction score
311
GotED? said:
Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!





(please.... the only hair I let down are the ones in between my legs) :eek:
Gag me with a spoon.
 

SteR

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2004
Messages
773
Reaction score
256
Espi said:
In my opinion, EVERYTHING hinges on how comfortable you are with just being "yourself." I find that the most genuine, confident, driven, and passionate people in this world also happen to be the most attractive, and humor is one of those attractive qualities that emanates from just simply being content in life. When you feel good about yourself and others around you, humor, in my opinion, will naturally manifest...because you're thinking, speaking and acting from the heart...no filter. Some people will find freethinking individuals funny; others will find them repulsive.

Acting dead serious can crack a person up. You don't have to be a comedian.
This is actually something I've come to believe as of late. I think we're all born with 'talents' so to speak and we're all naturally attractive when we use them to their fullest and stop trying to pretend to be something we're not.
 

Bokanovsky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2012
Messages
4,687
Reaction score
4,304
Charles Manson got more pvssy than this entire board combined (even though he spent most of his adult life in prison). Heck, women were literally willing to kill for him. Yet, he doesn't strike me as a particularly funny or humorous kind of guy.
 
Top