Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If a girl's IL is high, she's going to laugh even at your bad jokes. Don't think you're not funny; just keep doing it (as needed, don't overdo). Everything comes with practice anyway.Smok1nAce said:Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
I notice that as well; but those girls are no fun to me.I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!FairShake said:Just let your hair down and stop being serious. .
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Gag me with a spoon.GotED? said:Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!
(please.... the only hair I let down are the ones in between my legs)![]()
This is actually something I've come to believe as of late. I think we're all born with 'talents' so to speak and we're all naturally attractive when we use them to their fullest and stop trying to pretend to be something we're not.Espi said:In my opinion, EVERYTHING hinges on how comfortable you are with just being "yourself." I find that the most genuine, confident, driven, and passionate people in this world also happen to be the most attractive, and humor is one of those attractive qualities that emanates from just simply being content in life. When you feel good about yourself and others around you, humor, in my opinion, will naturally manifest...because you're thinking, speaking and acting from the heart...no filter. Some people will find freethinking individuals funny; others will find them repulsive.
Acting dead serious can crack a person up. You don't have to be a comedian.