Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If a girl's IL is high, she's going to laugh even at your bad jokes. Don't think you're not funny; just keep doing it (as needed, don't overdo). Everything comes with practice anyway.Smok1nAce said:Im not really funny i make witty comments hear and there but im not really funny. do i stand a chance if im not funny with girls?
I notice that as well; but those girls are no fun to me.I actually noticed the most times I had girls ask for my number and act interested was when I didn't have a smile on my face the entire conversion.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!FairShake said:Just let your hair down and stop being serious. .
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Gag me with a spoon.GotED? said:Ugh.... are you like.... being serious and all that? Like.... fer sure??!! OMG, whatttt---evaaaa!!!
(please.... the only hair I let down are the ones in between my legs)![]()
This is actually something I've come to believe as of late. I think we're all born with 'talents' so to speak and we're all naturally attractive when we use them to their fullest and stop trying to pretend to be something we're not.Espi said:In my opinion, EVERYTHING hinges on how comfortable you are with just being "yourself." I find that the most genuine, confident, driven, and passionate people in this world also happen to be the most attractive, and humor is one of those attractive qualities that emanates from just simply being content in life. When you feel good about yourself and others around you, humor, in my opinion, will naturally manifest...because you're thinking, speaking and acting from the heart...no filter. Some people will find freethinking individuals funny; others will find them repulsive.
Acting dead serious can crack a person up. You don't have to be a comedian.