I realize that I almost never pursue girls who show interest in me first. Sometimes, I'm not into the girl. Other times, I find the girl attractive but I'm too insecure to go for it. I usually think that the girl has high expectations or sees me in a fantasy-like way and I'm afraid that I won't be able to live up to that image. If her interest falls, then my ego is crushed.
I usually pursue girls whose interest is undetectable or girls who I have to work to get their attention. I feel like these girls are attracted to the "real" me if they show interest. Plus, if it doesn't work out, I don't feel as bad because there was no image that I had failed to live up to. I can at least commend myself on the work that I did to build their attraction to me.
Can anyone relate or am I completely out of my mind?
I usually pursue girls whose interest is undetectable or girls who I have to work to get their attention. I feel like these girls are attracted to the "real" me if they show interest. Plus, if it doesn't work out, I don't feel as bad because there was no image that I had failed to live up to. I can at least commend myself on the work that I did to build their attraction to me.
Can anyone relate or am I completely out of my mind?