"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you know someone who fix shoulder blades? i can't lift at bench press because after 4-6 reps, My Effin left shoulder starts to cry.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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EyeBRollin

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You are most likely suffering from a problem a lot of recreational lifters suffer from: you bench too much with not enough pulls.

Cut your volume to 5 reps per set at one day per week and lower the weight.

Incorporate Pendley Barbell Rows and Chin ups. Do these for every bench press set. If you do shoulder press , add a second set of chins. This will establish a minimum 3:2 pull push ratio. That should correct the imbalance but it will take a couple months. For now Ice and reduce your bench volume.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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It could be shoulder tendonitis, which is something most lifters have to deal with at one time or another.

I always just fought through it, but you might try taking Ibuprofen and lowering the weight.
 

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Google Eric Cressey. He has some great advice for shoulder pain that gets quite geeky. I found his information after developing pain in my AC joint and over the past month have been able to begin to rebalance my shoulder. After constant nagging pain, I now only experience it occasionally during some movements after “push day”. But yes, as a previous poster mentioned, most lifters bench (push) too much relative to pulls. This imbalance manifests itself in different ways for different people. I would lean toward seeing a physical therapist before orthopedist in most shoulder cases. Good luck!
 
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