"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you know someone who fix shoulder blades? i can't lift at bench press because after 4-6 reps, My Effin left shoulder starts to cry.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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EyeBRollin

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You are most likely suffering from a problem a lot of recreational lifters suffer from: you bench too much with not enough pulls.

Cut your volume to 5 reps per set at one day per week and lower the weight.

Incorporate Pendley Barbell Rows and Chin ups. Do these for every bench press set. If you do shoulder press , add a second set of chins. This will establish a minimum 3:2 pull push ratio. That should correct the imbalance but it will take a couple months. For now Ice and reduce your bench volume.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It could be shoulder tendonitis, which is something most lifters have to deal with at one time or another.

I always just fought through it, but you might try taking Ibuprofen and lowering the weight.
 

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Google Eric Cressey. He has some great advice for shoulder pain that gets quite geeky. I found his information after developing pain in my AC joint and over the past month have been able to begin to rebalance my shoulder. After constant nagging pain, I now only experience it occasionally during some movements after “push day”. But yes, as a previous poster mentioned, most lifters bench (push) too much relative to pulls. This imbalance manifests itself in different ways for different people. I would lean toward seeing a physical therapist before orthopedist in most shoulder cases. Good luck!
 
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