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tj
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Once I think that it has to do with "service" I end up getting pissed off.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
How many times do we have to tell new posters to put their age in their profile. THis gets real tiring.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...tj said:
I bet someone else told you that service should be your purpose (kinda self serving of themselves ironically). Ever consider that how things would be if each adult was self sufficient?Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Any chance you were talking about the Purpose Driven Life? My grandma is a certified Bible thumper and wanted me to check the book out. I briefly skimmed over it. Here are the purposes from Wikipedia
# Purpose #1: You Were Planned for God's Pleasure (Worship)
# Purpose #2: You Were Formed for God's Family (Fellowship)
# Purpose #3: You Were Created to Become Like Christ (Discipleship)
# Purpose #4: You Were Shaped for Serving God (Ministry)
# Purpose #5: You Were Made for a Mission (Mission)
IMO If you're not a superstrong Christian (which I am not) then it's useless for you. BTW "service" probably falls under #4 & 5.
As for my purpose and the reason that I get up day after day, I can't find a reason.
Does anybody here believe that they have found their life's purpose?
# Purpose #1: You Were Planned for God's Pleasure (Worship)
# Purpose #2: You Were Formed for God's Family (Fellowship)
# Purpose #3: You Were Created to Become Like Christ (Discipleship)
# Purpose #4: You Were Shaped for Serving God (Ministry)
# Purpose #5: You Were Made for a Mission (Mission)
IMO If you're not a superstrong Christian (which I am not) then it's useless for you. BTW "service" probably falls under #4 & 5.
As for my purpose and the reason that I get up day after day, I can't find a reason.
Does anybody here believe that they have found their life's purpose?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Maxtro said:
The never ending pursuit of happiness.
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tj
Guest
Thanks for the replys.
Interestingly in most I have really thought about the last week or so.
My age.
The matrix was on last weekend.
I was watching some guy "deconstruct'' the Purpose driven life on you tube..
etc.
What I am finding is that it is getting more and more difficult to be motivated. From an epicurian (sp) stand point. Self-servicers usually ends up with cellulite
I do get pleasure from doing good deads..I definetly see people with "gifts" that help them in life. However, my tolerance level for most human beings is getting shorter by the day.
Interestingly in most I have really thought about the last week or so.
My age.
The matrix was on last weekend.
I was watching some guy "deconstruct'' the Purpose driven life on you tube..
etc.
What I am finding is that it is getting more and more difficult to be motivated. From an epicurian (sp) stand point. Self-servicers usually ends up with cellulite
I do get pleasure from doing good deads..I definetly see people with "gifts" that help them in life. However, my tolerance level for most human beings is getting shorter by the day.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Never underestimate the enjoyment of a hedonistic lifestyle...TyTe`EyEs said:
So true. Fvck co-dependancy!Francisco d'Anconia said:Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
My life purpose is to help other people by becoming a motivational speaker.
comic_relief
comic_relief
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
LMMFAO!!!tj said:
That's classic...
I definitely believe in the reward behind hard work, that nothing GREAT comes easy, that there are no shortcuts to a great life. And that the ton of bull$hit you go through can't compare to the ounce of treasure you dig up from the ground.
One of my great mentors always said that "when you arrive to your destination, you ALWAYS seem to forget the turbulence you went through to get there..."
All that to say, I think my purpose in life is to be great... it's the path that I trod on that's just kicking my azz. I want to go down in history, writing history, not reading about history.
So yeah, my life purpose is service...
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
My life purpose is to find my life purpose. I still haven't found a passion when it comes to school. I don't know what career i'll have in the future. I don't know where i'll be living in 6 months or what i'll be doing. I'm in my mid 20's so my time is running out in fact I think im screwed already.
I just want to have a set course like most people that is all.
I just want to have a set course like most people that is all.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
So is everyone just complete nihilists that think we should only look out for ourselves? It's not that rediculous to have service as a life goal, you can influence and help people just in your everyday life. I still have my fun too. In my opinion if you're only living for yourself you're not really living. People will try to take advantage or leech onto you, just cut them off. Lots of people genuinely could use some help in whatever form, and won't be manipulative. The only time I don't do this alot is when I'm dating a girl, just to stay out of the provider/ helper mindset.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
hello:wave: ? I want to help people by becoming a motivational speaker? :wave:The Inside Man said:
comic_relief
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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tj
Guest
comic_relief said:
"living in a van down by the river"
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
"playing with my shotgun and chewng my chewing tabaccy"tj said:"living in a van down by the river"
comic_relief