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Once I think that it has to do with "service" I end up getting pissed off.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...tj said:Once I think that it has to do with "service" I end up getting pissed off.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Maxtro said:Does anybody here believe that they have found their life's purpose?
Never underestimate the enjoyment of a hedonistic lifestyle...TyTe`EyEs said:The never ending pursuit of happiness.
So true. Fvck co-dependancy!Francisco d'Anconia said:Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...I bet someone else told you that service should be your purpose (kinda self serving of themselves ironically). Ever consider that how things would be if each adult was self sufficient?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LMMFAO!!!tj said:I do get pleasure from doing good deads... However, my tolerance level for most human beings is getting shorter by the day.
hello:wave: ? I want to help people by becoming a motivational speaker? :wave:The Inside Man said:So is everyone just complete nihilists that think we should only look out for ourselves? It's not that rediculous to have service as a life goal, you can influence and help people just in your everyday life. I still have my fun too. In my opinion if you're only living for yourself you're not really living. People will try to take advantage or leech onto you, just cut them off. Lots of people genuinely could use some help in whatever form, and won't be manipulative. The only time I don't do this alot is when I'm dating a girl, just to stay out of the provider/ helper mindset.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
comic_relief said:hello:wave: ? I want to help people by becoming a motivational speaker? :wave:
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"playing with my shotgun and chewng my chewing tabaccy"tj said:"living in a van down by the river"![]()