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tj
Guest
Once I think that it has to do with "service" I end up getting pissed off.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
How many times do we have to tell new posters to put their age in their profile. THis gets real tiring.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...tj said:
I bet someone else told you that service should be your purpose (kinda self serving of themselves ironically). Ever consider that how things would be if each adult was self sufficient?Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Any chance you were talking about the Purpose Driven Life? My grandma is a certified Bible thumper and wanted me to check the book out. I briefly skimmed over it. Here are the purposes from Wikipedia
# Purpose #1: You Were Planned for God's Pleasure (Worship)
# Purpose #2: You Were Formed for God's Family (Fellowship)
# Purpose #3: You Were Created to Become Like Christ (Discipleship)
# Purpose #4: You Were Shaped for Serving God (Ministry)
# Purpose #5: You Were Made for a Mission (Mission)
IMO If you're not a superstrong Christian (which I am not) then it's useless for you. BTW "service" probably falls under #4 & 5.
As for my purpose and the reason that I get up day after day, I can't find a reason.
Does anybody here believe that they have found their life's purpose?
# Purpose #1: You Were Planned for God's Pleasure (Worship)
# Purpose #2: You Were Formed for God's Family (Fellowship)
# Purpose #3: You Were Created to Become Like Christ (Discipleship)
# Purpose #4: You Were Shaped for Serving God (Ministry)
# Purpose #5: You Were Made for a Mission (Mission)
IMO If you're not a superstrong Christian (which I am not) then it's useless for you. BTW "service" probably falls under #4 & 5.
As for my purpose and the reason that I get up day after day, I can't find a reason.
Does anybody here believe that they have found their life's purpose?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Maxtro said:
The never ending pursuit of happiness.
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tj
Guest
Thanks for the replys.
Interestingly in most I have really thought about the last week or so.
My age.
The matrix was on last weekend.
I was watching some guy "deconstruct'' the Purpose driven life on you tube..
etc.
What I am finding is that it is getting more and more difficult to be motivated. From an epicurian (sp) stand point. Self-servicers usually ends up with cellulite
I do get pleasure from doing good deads..I definetly see people with "gifts" that help them in life. However, my tolerance level for most human beings is getting shorter by the day.
Interestingly in most I have really thought about the last week or so.
My age.
The matrix was on last weekend.
I was watching some guy "deconstruct'' the Purpose driven life on you tube..
etc.
What I am finding is that it is getting more and more difficult to be motivated. From an epicurian (sp) stand point. Self-servicers usually ends up with cellulite
I do get pleasure from doing good deads..I definetly see people with "gifts" that help them in life. However, my tolerance level for most human beings is getting shorter by the day.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Never underestimate the enjoyment of a hedonistic lifestyle...TyTe`EyEs said:
So true. Fvck co-dependancy!Francisco d'Anconia said:Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
My life purpose is to help other people by becoming a motivational speaker.
comic_relief
comic_relief
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LMMFAO!!!tj said:
That's classic...
I definitely believe in the reward behind hard work, that nothing GREAT comes easy, that there are no shortcuts to a great life. And that the ton of bull$hit you go through can't compare to the ounce of treasure you dig up from the ground.
One of my great mentors always said that "when you arrive to your destination, you ALWAYS seem to forget the turbulence you went through to get there..."
All that to say, I think my purpose in life is to be great... it's the path that I trod on that's just kicking my azz. I want to go down in history, writing history, not reading about history.
So yeah, my life purpose is service...
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
My life purpose is to find my life purpose. I still haven't found a passion when it comes to school. I don't know what career i'll have in the future. I don't know where i'll be living in 6 months or what i'll be doing. I'm in my mid 20's so my time is running out in fact I think im screwed already.
I just want to have a set course like most people that is all.
I just want to have a set course like most people that is all.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
So is everyone just complete nihilists that think we should only look out for ourselves? It's not that rediculous to have service as a life goal, you can influence and help people just in your everyday life. I still have my fun too. In my opinion if you're only living for yourself you're not really living. People will try to take advantage or leech onto you, just cut them off. Lots of people genuinely could use some help in whatever form, and won't be manipulative. The only time I don't do this alot is when I'm dating a girl, just to stay out of the provider/ helper mindset.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
hello:wave: ? I want to help people by becoming a motivational speaker? :wave:The Inside Man said:
comic_relief
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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tj
Guest
comic_relief said:
"living in a van down by the river"
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
"playing with my shotgun and chewng my chewing tabaccy"tj said:"living in a van down by the river"
comic_relief